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Thursday, June 12, 2014

Your Guide to Edging

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What is better than one orgasm? A more powerful one! There are many names for this practice, sufing, peaking, edging, but no matter what you call it, they are all forms of orgasm control. This is where the goal is to stave off your orgasm to prolong your sexual experience and/or create a stronger orgasmic sensation. This technique can be practiced alone or with a partner and is something you can start today!

For the majority of males, ejaculation happens within a few minutes of penetration. While that is great for them, it often leaves their female partners unsatisfied. It takes a woman about 20 minutes of stimulation to reach orgasm. And after a male ejaculates, he experiences a refractory period in which he has to wait to continue sexual stimulation. With edging, the male can prolong his sexual encounter with his partner and hopefully see her orgasm before his own. 

Practicing edging is a fairly simple task. If you are alone, bring yourself up to the brink (the edge) of orgasm and then stop the stimulation. Continue to stimulate yourself to the edge of orgasm and then back away. The same rules apply if you are with a partner. Communicate to them when they need to ease off of the stimulation. Once you reach the level of arousal that you are seeking, or simply cannot take it anymore, you can orgasm. Many people report a stronger, more powerful, and intense orgasm due to all of the built up sexual tension. 

And this practice isn’t just for men; women can practice edging as well. Edging is not only a good way to prolong your sexual encounter, but is a great way to get to know your body. Too little stimulation and you could be masturbating all day or too much and you orgasm within the first few minutes of touching yourself. You have to become familiar with your reactions to stimulation and know when you are going to go over the edge. This can also be a great exercise in learning your partner’s body and their sexual cues. And don’t worry; it is ok if you accidentally reach the point of no return. Practice makes perfect!

So next time you want to have a longer sexual orgasm or a more powerful orgasm, try edging. Make a game out of it with yourself and see how long you can last. 

By Megan Stubbs
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