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Thursday, June 12, 2014

Your Guide to Edging

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What is better than one orgasm? A more powerful one! There are many names for this practice, sufing, peaking, edging, but no matter what you call it, they are all forms of orgasm control. This is where the goal is to stave off your orgasm to prolong your sexual experience and/or create a stronger orgasmic sensation. This technique can be practiced alone or with a partner and is something you can start today!

For the majority of males, ejaculation happens within a few minutes of penetration. While that is great for them, it often leaves their female partners unsatisfied. It takes a woman about 20 minutes of stimulation to reach orgasm. And after a male ejaculates, he experiences a refractory period in which he has to wait to continue sexual stimulation. With edging, the male can prolong his sexual encounter with his partner and hopefully see her orgasm before his own. 

Practicing edging is a fairly simple task. If you are alone, bring yourself up to the brink (the edge) of orgasm and then stop the stimulation. Continue to stimulate yourself to the edge of orgasm and then back away. The same rules apply if you are with a partner. Communicate to them when they need to ease off of the stimulation. Once you reach the level of arousal that you are seeking, or simply cannot take it anymore, you can orgasm. Many people report a stronger, more powerful, and intense orgasm due to all of the built up sexual tension. 

And this practice isn’t just for men; women can practice edging as well. Edging is not only a good way to prolong your sexual encounter, but is a great way to get to know your body. Too little stimulation and you could be masturbating all day or too much and you orgasm within the first few minutes of touching yourself. You have to become familiar with your reactions to stimulation and know when you are going to go over the edge. This can also be a great exercise in learning your partner’s body and their sexual cues. And don’t worry; it is ok if you accidentally reach the point of no return. Practice makes perfect!

So next time you want to have a longer sexual orgasm or a more powerful orgasm, try edging. Make a game out of it with yourself and see how long you can last. 

By Megan Stubbs
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1 comment :

  1. my ex was a 3 pumper, it was so unsatisfying, i'd have to take matters into my own hands, or fingers? to satisfy myself.
    i'm sooooooo glad my current husband doesnt have this problem. i dont know what the hell he's thinking about to keep from coming too soon, but he's an (oral) god amongst men, i have at least 1 orgasm before i'm "ready" for him to enter me. he can keep going, seemingly forever, until i'm ready to cum again. we tries to cum just as i do, it literally turns me into a babbling idiot, "would you like fries with that sir"?
    only 2 times i can remember in the 20 years we've been together has he "gone off" too soon.
    once we were changing positions,(he has arthritis in his knees) we were doing it doggy style(my favorite) when he needed to change, i got on my back, he put mylegs on his shoulders, as he guided his missile towards me it went off, all over my belly and boobs, nearly reaching my chin!!
    he was embarrassed, and i played it off, afterall i'd already orgasmed 3 or 4 times...
    the other time i remember, we were at a hotel for a banquet, we'd been teasing each other all night long, around 2 am, on our way back to our room, the elevator was empty, i dropped to my knees unzipped him quick and wrapped my lips around him. i only got a couple strokes in before we reached our floor. we barely made it inside our room beore i was flat on my back, my LBD around my waist, and legs spread wide. he took of his suit jacket, i started rubbing his cock through his pants with my hi heeled foot. he slowly unzipped his pants, and his cock popped out. i was giving him a gentle "heeljob" "i'm gonna c..." was as much as he could say before he spurted out all over my stocking'd legs and heels..
    i pulled him on top of me, he got on top in a 69, and i went about making sure he stayed hard, while he played with my pussy..
    that was quite the night. he's always been able to stay hard,even after an orgasm, and go for round 2 or 3 or 5 !!!