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A blog about relationships, intimacy and sex toys.

Monday, February 29, 2016

Safety and BDSM Play

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BDSM might look extreme and fantastic to those on the outside. For those in the know, however, it's well thought out and every precaution is taken to ensure that a scene is safe for everyone involved. In fact, it's wise not to play with anyone who won't discuss safety in regards to BDSM or prepare for potential negative outcomes!

The first line of safety available to you when engaging in BDSM is the safe word. This is something you can say – or a small but clear action – that lets your partner know when things are becoming too intense or when play must stop immediately. Although it's typically the bottom or sub who uses safe words, it's perfectly fine for a dominant or top to use a safe word to halt play, especially for those who are less experienced.

There's no ideal safe word, but you want something that you can easily remember and say even during intense play. Short safe words are better, but “No” and “Stop” are generally not a good idea, especially if you're experimenting with forced play. Furthermore, avoid a safe word that rhymes with any word you wish to avoid because they could become confused during your scene.

Friday, February 12, 2016

Why Glass Toys Are the Best for Your Anal Play

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If you’re looking for something pleasurable for your collection, glass sex toys are a great all-purpose choice. Still, the combination of anal play and the unique properties of glass toys make them the perfect partners in anal pleasure.


One of the greatest attributes of glass toys is their ability to absorb the body's heat and reflect it back. With the rectum's high number of blood vessels, it's one of the warmest parts of our body. Together, it creates a one-of-a-kind sensation that's almost electric. Although it just uses your body's own heat, it feels warmer somehow; it's incredible.

If you're looking for something brisker, glass toys can also be put in cold water or the freezer. This might come in handy after a spanking, but before anal play. It's a great way to do aftercare without having to stop the action. The cold doesn’t last a long time inside someone, but it can give things a shocking start.


The tissues of the rectum and anus are some of the most delicate in the whole body. They're made to transport soft material, not for filling with fingers or other objects. So, those thin, blood rich, nerve-ending packed tissues are only protected by natural lubrication. While lots of other toy materials offer the requisite satin finish, none offer the incredible smoothness of glass toys.

Because glass toys are completely free of pores or pits in the surface, your lube does its job even better. Glass toys seem to glide in and out friction-free, which makes them great for gauging up to larger sizes. With less friction on your anus, you can also enjoy anal pleasure longer without the rubbed raw feeling that can occur with other materials.