Bedroom Insider

A blog about relationships, intimacy and sex toys.

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Things to Consider Before You Have a Threesome

It is pretty universal that most men are interested in or fantasize about having a threesome – usually with two women. But, no matter what combination, a threesome is something many men think about.

Technically group sex includes sex with 3, 4, or more people. That means there are more mouths, more hands, more arms, more legs – but there is also more need to communicate, more need for coordination, more feelings, more baggage…  There are many things to consider about group sex.

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Safer Oral Sex

Oral sex is known by many names like ‘blow jobs’, ‘eating out’, ‘tossing the salad’, or simply ‘oral’. It can be a great way to get the juices flowing or it can simply be a nice gesture to your partner. Whatever the reason, being smart and safer is always the sexy option.

Oral sex is any contact of your mouth on the genitals. This can be mouth on penis, vulva, or anus. Each of these acts has their own technique to help your reduce your risk to STD/STI exposure. Bacteria and viruses thrive in warm wet places like your mouth and genitals. Transmission can go from mouth to genital or genital to mouth, so it is important to keep both of you safe.

Monday, July 15, 2013

Please a Woman

Think about this scenario for a minute. Imagine your woman comes to you asking for sex. That’s right – you don’t have to ask, you don’t worry that she’ll claim to have a headache or to be too busy. She is the one to initiate sex – and that means you don’t have to think about being turned down. You may wonder what would cause a typical woman to start taking the initiative and to be the aggressor in your relationship.

The answer is simple – you have proven to be the “ideal” partner and lover. You help her embrace and enjoy her sexuality, you make her feel comfortable and sexy when you’re together. You have also shown her that you want to do your part to make her very happy and encourage her sexual pleasure.

She wants you. She wants you to make love to her. Does that sound good? I’m going to give you the secret formula…

My love coach mentor said, “anyone can have sex, but making love is an art form.” That is very true, and pleasing your woman is an art. Pay attention – these are the “secrets” you need to know to please your woman and to take both of you to a more satisfying level.

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Lube 101 - Wetter is Better

Biologically we naturally lubricate when we are sexually aroused. The lubrication produced helps facilitate sexual intercourse by reducing friction between the vagina and penis. But we don’t only have PV sex, and not all of us are having sex just to procreate. We engage in all kinds of sexual activities and most of the time our natural lubrication can’t keep up with the duration of our sex sessions. The use of lube is NOT a sign that you aren’t turned on enough or a cop out. Lube is a great staple to include in your solo and partnered sex life and everyone has heard that wetter is better!

Like the colors of the rainbow, lube comes in many different varieties. Lubes can be water, silicone, or oil based and each of these has their benefits. Some things to keep in mind while lube shopping-

Monday, July 8, 2013

How You Can Share Anal Pleasure

Anal sex is a big taboo for many couples. However, for other couples, it can be a big turn on. There are many reasons why people may consider anal sex to be taboo. Here are just a few of the misconceptions about anal sex –

  •  The anus is “exit only” 
  •  Only homosexual men like anal sex 
  •  Bodily fluids and functions may get in the way 
  •  It is painful 
  • A person has been told it isn’t acceptable

Do you agree with these ideas about anal sex? Society, family, friends and a person’s beliefs can be the reason people don’t like or refuse to even experiment with anal sex.
On the other hand, let’s look at some of the reasons why people enjoy anal sex – 

  • It feels good.
  • You can’t get pregnant. 
  • The anus is often tighter and more stimulating than the vagina.
  • It is an alternative when vaginal sex is painful
  • Some women enjoy “double penetration” – Anal and vaginal penetration at the same time

Anal sex is becoming more acceptable and likely people you know are enjoying anal pleasure, whether they admit it to you or not. Let’s start with some basics.