Bedroom Insider

A blog about relationships, intimacy and sex toys.

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

An Introduction to Oral Pleasure - Fellatio

Romantic Couple

Fellatio, most commonly known as a blowjob or giving head, has myths and misinformation surrounding it just like it’s female counterpart cunnilingus. This is not something often covered in sex ed and even something you feel comfortable talking about with friends or family. Fellatio is still steeped in taboo for many and you can find laws against in it some states even today. Some just think they won’t enjoy giving it. Perhaps some information and myth busting will help make fellatio a more fun and enjoyable part of sexy time.

An Anatomy Lesson

The word fellatio comes from the latin fellatus, which is the past participle of fellare, meaning to suck. Merriam-Webster’s definition of fellatio is “the act of stimulating a man's penis with the mouth for sexual pleasure.” Just as the vulva come in all shapes and sized, the penis comes in various shapes, lengths, and widths. The tip of the penis is the glans (the head) with the urethral opening; then the foreskin (if you happen to be uncircumcised); the underside of the glans has an area called the frenulum and the rounded base of the glans is called the corona. The whole glans area has the highest concentration of nerves. The frenulum has the most nerve endings so can be the most sensitive part of the penis. The glans connects to the shaft. The ridge along the underside of the shaft is the raphe and it extends from the glans, past the scrotum to the perineum. This area is the most sensitive part of the shaft. The whole of the penis extends into the body, which includes the prostate. The opening of the urethra is called the meatus; I will pause for a moment to allow you to giggle about that.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Gift Ideas To Spice Up Your Valentine’s Day

If you’re over the pink, the heart shaped boxes of chocolates, and the generic check-out lane bought bouquet of flowers for Valentine’s Day, consider these five unique ideas.

Gift Mutual Lingerie

Why not take your partner shopping for some sexy under things? This can be a great way for both of you to play in the store and get some new garb to wear for your erotic encounters. Single? Take this time to splurge and do something special for yourself! Buy yourself anything that makes you feel sexy or helps you boost your confidence in the bedroom. Get double your money’s worth by not only getting to look extra sexy, but use the chance to do an slow strip tease for your partner as well.

Snail Mail an Erotic Letter

The art of letter writing is slowly becoming a lost art. Surprise your partner by actually hand writing them a letter and sending it in the mail. The letter can be as mild or wild as you would like. It can describe things that you love about them or a very graphic, detailed letter about what you plan to do to them on Valentine’s night.

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

A Strap-On Harness Guide

A strap-on harness, for those of you new to the concept, is a garment you wear around your hips and thighs that supports a dildo. The dildo is used for penetrative sex (both vagina and anus) and you can also perform a blowjob on it too. A strap-on can be used for both same-sex and heterosexual sex. Basically a strap-on harness gives you a penis that you can use in any way a biological penis is used. The motions while using a strap-on will stimulate the clitoris, making you feel really hot and sexy, so orgasm can be achieved while wearing one. The right strap-on should fit securely, be comfortable and feel right while using. Here are the varieties of options available and how they might be the perfect fit for you.
New Comer's Strap-On Kit
New Comer's Strap-On Kit
Important Parts

A strap-on is more than just straps. There are different components that make it work. Some use just straps in different configurations while some use a combination of straps and a wearable brief like bottom. Others can be pulled on just like underwear. Buckles on the straps are used to adjust fit. The O-ring is in the front part of the harness and comes in different sizes and materials. It’s where you put the dildo through and keeps it in place. O-rings are often metal but can be rubber, most can be removed to change sizes, and some are fixed. Changing sizes of your O-ring is important if you use different size dildos. The right size O-ring provides the most secure fit. Many of the brief style harnesses have rubber 0-rings that have some stretch to them making it easier to use with different sized dildos. You can also find a Vac-u-lock base where the dildo is attached by clicking it into the strap-on, not pulling it through an O-ring. The vac-u-lock system usually keeps the dildo on a firmer base and prevents it from spinning around. It can be difficult to use sometimes and you’re usually limited to only using the dildo made to go with the harness. An O-ring gives you more freedom of variety. Some harnesses will also have a slot for a bullet vibe. The last important part is the dildo, more on that later.