Bedroom Insider

A blog about relationships, intimacy and sex toys.

Thursday, August 22, 2013

B is for Bondage: Bondage for Beginners

The recent interest in all things kinky has sparked the desire to learn more about BDSM. If you’re new to BDSM, I’d like to introduce you to the “B” in that acronym: Bondage. Bondage can be a sexy bit of kink easily added to your routine. 

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The first thing you should do when starting to explore bondage is talk. Communication is the key when starting any new venture. We’ve seen enough stories on the internet about unsuspecting partners being “surprised” and only managing to spice up the evening with an extremely upset partner or, worse yet, physical injury. Find out what turns you on by reading different types of erotica. There are also instructional books, instructional DVDs and websites that can help introduce you to a variety of options. Try writing an email or letter to your partner if talking makes you uncomfortable. Once you’ve agreed upon what you’re both comfortable doing, also talk about what you won’t do. Limits are important. Once you’ve established what you are willing, and not willing to do, you can start looking for ways to safely make that happen.

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

6 Tips to be a Sexy Goddess for Your Partner

We all like to believe we make our partner happy, in many ways, but let’s talk about ways to make your partner happy sexually. If I asked your partner – what would they say? Before we find out anything negative, I’ll share some tips to help you be a sex goddess for your partner.

When people find out I’m a Relationship Coach and a Master Sexpert, their first comment is to tell me how great they are in bed. However, they need to understand there is always something new to learn or something new to try. So, let’s talk about things you can do to be the sex goddess your partner wants... and it is likely to help you enjoy sex more. 


Monday, August 5, 2013

Back Door Basics

For some, the prospect of anal sex is very taboo. But for those who want to break through the stigma and revel in the pleasure, anal play can be super hot. Both men and woman can enjoy in anal pleasure. Yes, you too men. *(Just because you like anal play, it doesn’t make you gay. How you enjoy pleasure does not define your sexual orientation.)  The anus is a hot bed of nerve endings that result in an often overlooked erogenous zone.  So if you’re still with me, and want some must know butt basics, read on fellow sexual explorer.

 Anytime I ask someone about anal play and they tell me they would never do it, the number one reason is because “that is where poop comes out of.” Yes, you’re not wrong, but in a healthy person, the rectum is merely temporary storage of feces. There shouldn’t be any remnants left over. If you’re still concerned, you are welcome to use an enema. 

As with any new sexual activity, you have to be in the right mindset. Nervousness and apprehension are common. Take some time to relax your mind and body with some deep breaths. Check in with your anus. Are you clenching? Make a conscious effort to relax and really get in touch with your body.