Bedroom Insider

A blog about relationships, intimacy and sex toys.

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Kegels and Kegel Balls - Exercise With Sexy Benefits

Kegels, or Kegel exercises, were something I had heard about often over the many years since my sexual maturity but only in terms of incontinence and post pregnancy recovery. It would show up in women’s magazines and only occasionally would it mention how it could also improve your sex life. That has changed quite a bit over the decades since then. It almost seems like a role reversal, articles talk about the sex benefits first then throw in the post pregnancy/incontinence stuff as a bonus. While Kegel exercises may be known to many women (but not all I’m sure) Kegel balls or other Kegel specific toys can still be a mystery. Let’s learn about the muscles, the exercise and the equipment.

Icicles No.41 Small Glass Ben-Wa Balls

Icicles No.41 Small Glass Ben-Wa Balls

Important Muscles

Kegel exercises work on the pelvic floor muscles. The Pubucoccygeus, or PC muscles, are muscles that stretch from the pubic bone to the coccyx (tail bone) like a hammock that supports the pelvic organs. They are found in both men and women. In 1948, the gynecologist Arnold Kegel was the first to realize that the weakened pelvic floor muscles were linked to urinary incontinence (inability to control urination), genital prolapse (collapse of the vagina wall) and weakened pelvic muscles due to childbirth. He also developed the perineometer to measure the strength of PC muscle contractions to help diagnose weakened muscles. He then developed exercises to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. Now known as Kegel Exercises, they consist of contractions that strengthen this muscle. In women, Kegel exercises not only can help with incontinence but also help build up weakened muscles due to pregnancy and childbirth, they can help to increase orgasms and sexual pleasure. Kegel exercises can even help some women who have trouble achieving, or can’t achieve, orgasm. In men they can help with male urinary incontinence, inflammation of the prostate, and possibly even premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Five Must Try Woman on Top Positions

Are you in a sex position rut? Why not try a woman on top position? Roles are completely reversed in this configuration. This is a great way to be in charge of the action and still feel close with your partner. Being on top allows you to set whatever pace you like and how much penetration you want to receive. It is also makes it easier for you to try climax because you can adjust your body to receive better clitoral stimulation. And besides increasing your chances of orgasm, your partner loves to see you on top. Many people enjoy watching their partner take control and the front row view of breasts isn’t bad either. Don’t worry about any imperfections you think you may have. The last thing your partner is going to notice is that spot you missed shaving or whether or not you’re bloated from dinner, trust me. So relax, jump in the saddle and ride ‘em with these positions!

Standard Woman on Top

This is a great starting point for those who are not familiar with this position. Suddenly jumping on your partner can seem like a daunting task, but it doesn’t have to be an awkward endeavor. You can ease into the position quite smoothly if you are already part way there. You can be laying side by side with your partner kissing and then you can move yourself so that you’re laying on top of them. Slide your body down theirs until you’re in the right spot. You can use an arm to push yourself up and lean your body forward so you can use your other hand to guide them into you. Once they are inside of you, you can continue to lay on them and make subtle hip movements or you can push yourself up to a seated position and make more exaggerated hip movements. 

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Intro To Sex Toys For Men

When it comes to sex toys it often seems like girls have all the fun. Recently sex toy manufacturers are starting to realize that some men may want something more than their own hand to help them in solo play. Some toys have been around for a long time but haven’t been explored or are simply not talked about much. There are many new toys too. You may be looking for some new ideas for sex toys for yourself or for your partner but some find the idea of male oriented sex toys a bit intimidating. Just as women are breaking free of sex toy stigma and normalizing the use of toys, so should men. To get you started, let’s take a walk through the men’s toy section and explain some of the options you have available to you.

Masturbation Sleeves

Sometimes your hand is not enough. It does a great job but there’s little variety unless, well, you change hands. Masturbation sleeves provide you with an option to enhance this stimulation with a variety of textures, pressure and sensations. The masturbation sleeves that I’m talking about here are not enclosed in rigid plastic but are the soft sleeve where you can feel the pressure of you own hand. Sleeves can come in body safe TPE (Thermo Plasticplastic Elastomor) or silicone. Some are closed at one end, which provides more suction. The open-ended sleeves are helpful if you don’t want too much stimulation at the head of the penis, you’re not a fan of lots of suction, or to use in conjunction with oral sex from another partner. Inside the sleeve can be found a variety of textures making it easy to find one that works for you or, better yet, gives you a variety to choose from.

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

When Sex Hurts

During an activity that commonly brings about pleasure and joy, painful sex can certainly put a damper on the mood. Painful sex can happen to anyone and there are many common culprits. Many can be treated without medical intervention and some are best addressed with your gynecologist. 

Lack of Lubrication

This is probably the most common. When you become aroused, your body produces lubricant in your vagina. Sometimes this lubricant is not adequate enough for penetrative sex and without additional lubricant, tearing and pulling can lead to discomfort. Keep some lubricant handy bedside and apply liberally. And don’t worry, the amount of lubricant you naturally produce is not a reflection on how aroused you are. 

Too Deep of Penetration

In certain positions or if your partner is very large, you can be experiencing discomfort from deep penetration. The force of a penis of object ramming against your cervix can cause intense pain. If this is the case, try positions that allow for more shallow penetration.