Wednesday, February 18, 2015
Humans have been looking for just about anything to stimulate sexual desire for as long as we’ve been in existence. Every culture in the world has come up with something they claim will instantly boost libido. Aphrodisiacs, from the Greek goddess of love Aphrodite, are used as an agent to arouse sexual desire and have been found in recorded history for about 60,000 years. Even though the FDA has debunked the idea that a food or drug can activate a strong desire for sex, people still use and recommend many of these long standing aphrodisiacs. In some cases the aphrodisiac does stimulate the body in ways that can help libido, others are completely useless and some are downright deadly. Let’s take a look at the wide variety of ways we’ve tried to feel sexier through chemistry.
A Seductive Shape
Certain aphrodisiacs were thought to work simply because their shape looked like a penis or vulva. Ginseng, which translates to “person root” in Chinese because of its person like shape, was thought of as an aphrodisiac and a cure for sexual dysfunction in men. Tiger penis, deer penis, oysters, abalone, rhinoceros horn, caviar, asparagus, bananas and even roses all have been linked to sexual arousal because of their genitalia shape. Avocados were referred to as “testicle tree” by the Aztecs and thought to have an aphrodisiac effect. Figs, which once opened give the impression of a vulva, are one of the oldest aphrodisiacs. Strawberries are thought to look like nipples and were once given to newlyweds in the French countryside as a cold soup. While all of these aren’t proven to stimulate desire some of them may help to nudge them along. Oysters are high in zinc that is essential for testosterone production and have amino acids that may trigger sex hormones. Abalone has selenium, which is a mood enhancer, and magnesium that helps with the production of sex hormones. Asparagus and bananas also contain nutrients that help with hormone production. In India bananas are symbol of fertility and in Central America the sap of the red banana tree was used as an aphrodisiac drink.
Wednesday, February 11, 2015
The bath is a great place to get a little dirty while you’re getting squeaky clean. The bath can be a break from the cold polar vortex, to reconnect after a stressful day or just the only place your kids won’t barge into. There are some super sexy ways to enjoy your bath time, and shower time too. So let’s get that water going so it can be hot and steamy by the time we’re ready to dive in with some of these tips to make your bath time even hotter.
Slippery When Wet
Sex in the shower can be a slippery situation. Even getting into the right position in the tub can feel a little risky in the slip and fall department. You can find handles in many different sizes and configurations that adhere to your bath with a suction base. These are mighty strong as they’re made to take some manhandling. Sportsheets has a great line called, plainly, Sex in the Shower. They have single locking suction handles and single locking suction footrest. The footrest will come in handy when you want to change up positions and that narrow strip between those shallow tub corners gets too small. They even have a dual locking suction handle that has two suction ends if you need something more secure to hold on to. Want to get your kink on safely; they have something for that too. There are suction cup thigh restraints, wrist cuffs, and even a suction cup attached to a collar. They easily attached to any smooth surface. You just flip the locking lever up, press firmly against the wall, then flip lever down to activate suction. With these you can try different positions in the bath or shower with more confidence.
Wednesday, January 21, 2015
With the premiere of Fifty Shades of Grey the movie only a few weeks away, many people are feeling inspired to find ways to create their very own red room. With quick tips, some purchases, and an open mind, you’ll be on your way to living the life of Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey. Here is a selection of toys to consider, straight from the pages of the books, and into your hands.
Nothing adds to erotic mystery like a blindfold. These can be lacy and sheer or totally opaque. It is up to you to decide how much you want your partner to be able to see. With one of your partners senses dulled, the remaining ones will be on high alert, waiting for your touch. A great way to experience a power exchange.
From silk neck ties to handcuffs, restraints can be a key component to relinquishing control to your partner. Maybe even try reversing the roles to add to the spice. Be sure to be able to release your partner with ease otherwise adverse happenings may follow. You don’t want to end up using a saw to cut your headboard and carry it to the nearest locksmith.
The Bullet Vibrator
This is one of my favorite sex toys. Think of it as the gateway toy to sexual exploration. It is versatile, discrete, and very inexpensive. It is the perfect toy for clitoral stimulation and to use in any kinky situation you can imagine. *Pro tip – While the sky is the limit, do not use this for anal play as most varieties do not have a flared base. Your night may turn into fifty shades of red as you sit in the ER waiting to get it removed if it gets lost.
Thursday, January 15, 2015
January 16th is International Fetish Day. This originated in the UK but went international a year later. While it may not be a well-known event, it’s a great time to talk about the word “fetish” and its somewhat clouded meaning. Words like “kink,” “fetish,” and “paraphilia” are all variations of similar ideas. Let’s look at their definitions and some examples. This article won’t provide a definitive explanation since the concept of “fetish” is continually evolving in the way it’s regarded in the medical and legal fields. The goal is to give you a greater understanding of the wide variety of fetishes out there, how they are practiced and experienced. Hopefully it will help you to understand that everyday ordinary people can have some interesting desires and still be healthy ordinary people.
Fetish is a word used for lots of things but the true definition is rarely known. The word first saw its use in the late 19th century. Merriam-Webster defines fetish as a need or desire for an object, body part or activity for sexual excitement. It goes on to describe fetish as an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression. A fetish can be for a form, a media, an animate object or a combination of thereof. It can be a kink but not all things we consider a fetish or kink is absolutely necessary for sexual gratification. For some a little bit of bondage, spanking, flogging or humiliation can add some fun to sexy time but not necessary for sex to be satisfying. If you need any of these items, or any of a wide range of other things, then you may have a fetish. If your fetish is leaning towards the extreme, meaning you can’t attain any sexual satisfaction at all other than from your fetish or to attain your fetish it requires dangerous or illegal action it is considered paraphilia.
Monday, January 5, 2015
We’ve made it past Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, Diwali, New Years and quite possibly even Three Kings Day. If you’re extra lucky you celebrated a birthday, anniversary or other gift-giving event at the same time. You also may have been extra naughty and nice to get an awesome sex toy as a gift or maybe you treated yourself to one. This is usually the time when after holiday storage is front and center on store circulars and in the seasonal aisle. It’s the perfect time of year to think about better sex toy storage solutions. Either you need some way to keep your sex toy stash in order or need some way to hide your collection from eyes. There are many ways to handle sex toy storage.
Ideally you should start by making sure each of your toys has it’s own cover or box. Unfortunately not every toy comes with a nice case or bag to store your toy afterward. Even a high-grade silicone toy can often just come in a plain plastic container that’s not conducive to storage afterward. Rather than just piling up your toys or letting them roll around unprotected, put each toy in a fabric bag, case or even the original container if it’s feasible. Take into account the material your toy is made out of and whether it needs batteries. You want to make sure that your toys are kept free of dirt and dust. You can find a nice selection of silky sex toy bags like Sugar Sak online. If you’re crafty you can even make your own. Chose something soft and silky that won’t leave lint on your toys nor scratch them in any way. Smaller storage containers can also help you keep instructions, chargers and cables with your toys. Some of you may still have toys that will react badly if they touch each other like plastic or jelly toys. You want to make sure they are covered so they don’t come in contact with other toys. Even a plastic ziplock style bag can help. Choose something that will protect the toy from getting dirty and collecting lint then store in a cool, dry place. Take batteries out of toys before storing and it’s always a good idea to fully charge your rechargables before you store them so they can be ready to use when you need them again. Always make sure your toys are clean and dry before returning them to storage.
Friday, December 5, 2014
From Thanksgiving to New Years, we’re on an ever-speeding treadmill of events and obligations. We’re cooking, cleaning, shopping and spending more time with family and friends than at any other time of the year. The combination of stress and lack of free time makes it hard to even feel sexy much want to get sexy with anyone. We also eat and drink more than usual while having less time alone. It’s during this season that we need time to reconnect and take advantage of the great stress release and over all good cheer we get from sex. Don’t worry, these tips won’t get you on the naughty list but they might make both your and your partner’s spirits bright during the holidays.
One of the hardest things to do during the holidays is finding time to be sexy. The trick is to make time to be sexy. Even the smallest moments can make a difference. You can block out time to be together either early on a holiday morning before the rest of the house has awakened or scheduling a sexy break during the day or making time with an evening date. If you have to put it on a calendar or shopping list then make it so! Better to have sex on your to-do list than on your wish list. Set a reminder on your phone for a lunchtime lovemaking break or even just some sexy time alone after the kids have gone to bed. If you have kids get a sitter or, better yet, find someone who can take the kids for a little while. Put the grocery list aside and the shopping list away. Just focus on each other. Turning off all the problem solving, dinner menu planning and holiday logistics for even a short time is essential if you’re going to fully enjoy being with each other. It’ll all be there when you’re done and the release of hormones will combat stress and the revitalized feeling should help you go back to all that work with renewed vigor.
Monday, November 24, 2014
Every November you’ll see men sporting mustaches in support of men’s health awareness called Movember. One of the important issues they often bring up is prostate health. Overall health and wellness affects your sexual health and wellness. In men, prostate health can be a major factor in their sex lives. As they get older the prostate can enlarge giving rise to a number of heath problems. These health problems can then cause issues that become sexual health problems. Let’s learn more about the prostate, where it is and how it works, and how it affects sexual health. Also, what can we do it improve prostate health.
What It Is and How It Works
The prostate is a gland found in male-bodied individuals. It’s located below the bladder, in front of the rectum, and surrounds the urethra. The urethra is the tube that carries urine from the bladder so the location of the prostate factors into certain health conditions. The gland is about the size of a walnut. It creates fluid that supports and nourishes sperm. During ejaculation, the prostate squeezes fluid through the urethra and the expelled fluid mixes with sperm coming from the testicles via the vasa differentia and seminal vesicle fluid to become semen. The prostate functions are regulated by testosterones. The milky white alkaline fluid, which houses the sperm, helps to neutralize the acidity of the vaginal track. It helps to prolong the life of the sperm and protect the genetic material they contain.