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Thursday, April 2, 2020

How to Maintain Intimacy when You're Apart with Distance Sex

Beautiful brunette woman wearing lingerie using mobile phone lies in bed take a selfie.

Whether it's an illness or a long-distance relationship, it's frustrating to be separated from partners and lovers. In the age of the Internet, there are so many ways to connect, however, and some of the tried-and-true methods of distance sex are still as good as ever! Don't believe me? Try the following for yourself!

Phone Sex

There's an entire generation of people who have missed out on phone sex because they're not comfortable with phone calls, and it's a shame. Phone sex is awesome, y'all. You get to share an intimate connection with someone that can feel quite taboo and all the much hotter for it. But you don't have to shave, brush your teeth, or even remove all your clothing. Hell, you don't even have to turn on the lights.

Phone sex combines the best parts of masturbating with the best parts of partnered sex, and now's it's time for a comeback! Thanks to smartphones and headsets, you can reserve both your hands for pleasure! So read your partner a sexy story, describe your fantasies, or tell the person on the other end of the phone what you're doing to yourself, and lie back and listen to their delectable sounds. Just make sure to wipe your phone down before and after touching yourself.

Cyber Sex

The face of cybersex has changed greatly over the last two decades. Thanks to high-speed Internet and high-definition cameras on the devices that we always have on us, you can see and hear the person on the other end of the line. So go ahead and start a Skype call or FaceTime with your boo. There are all sorts of sexy games to play via camera, ranging from Simon Says to self-bondage to erotic hypnosis. You can always stick to still photos if you prefer.

Of course, just because text-based cybersex isn't as common as it once was doesn't mean that you can't get old-school with it. Maybe it's time for the chat room to make a comeback! With so many people stuck at home, plenty of people are looking for those to flirt and hookup within the digital world, and some of these people have flocked to online dating sites. Who knows? Maybe your virtual hookup can lead to a physical one in the future!

Smart Toys

 Smart toys have become more ubiquitous over the last few years. Smart toys, like other smart devices, interface with your phone – usually via Bluetooth. You can use your phone as a remote control or hand it over to someone who can tease and titillate you, even if they're in a different room. However, this technology doesn't just improve on yesterday's frustrating remote-controlled toys.

The technology known as teledildonics allows users to controls toys over the Internet from afar, and it pairs perfectly with other items in this list. Many smart devices offer these capabilities, and some devices even integrate with your or messaging apps. Perhaps most impressive is the fact that some companies make toys that can respond to each other over the Internet when both are in use.

Get Low-Tech

You don't necessarily have to get high tech to enjoy toys when you're separated from your partner. Clone-A-Willy and Clone-A-Pussy kits allow you to create molds from your genitals and create sex toys from them, which you can share through good old-fashioned snail mail. The technique can take a second to perfect, so be sure to read all the instructions and watch a few videos before trying it out yourself. However, if it works, your partner will get a one-of-a-kind sex toy that reminds them of you!

Online Sex Work

For people who don't have a partner, sex workers are still available online. Cam girls provide a necessary connection to people who cannot find it elsewhere, not to mention release! And you can support your favorite performs via their websites, Only Fans accounts, and directly.


Of course, solo sex can still be awesome. More importantly, it can be a form of self-care during trying times. So break out the lube, your favorite sex toy, and your most reliable erotic content. If you're in a position to do so, seek out ethical porn and pay for it.

Lock the doors and slip between the sheets or into the tub. Explore your body and pleasure yourself in the ways that only you know how to do. Continue on for an orgasm or ten. Or you can also focus on the journey and not the destination.

By: Adriana Ravenlust
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