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A blog about relationships, intimacy and sex toys.

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Best Sexy Books For Your Library

Sexy Couple Reading Book

Do you may remember the book The Joy of Sex? Most of you may need a Wayback Machine to know about this book but it was a very popular sex position book that was on the bookshelves of some of my friend’s parents when I was a kid. Few sex guides before The Joy of Sex came out where very helpful. This book signified a change towards open discussion of pleasurable sex. Since then more books have been readily available and taken on a host of specific topics and many a niche sexual interest. Unfortunately, there are still many books out there that are useless as manuals. Here is a list of sexy books worth investing both your time and money.

Sex Ed Books

Acquiring knowledge is a life long endeavor. One always has something to learn no matter how old you get. Reading some good sex education books can solidify things you learned ages ago or fill in the gaps in your knowledge that can often happen over a lifetime. The aforementioned The Joy of Sex was updated in ’92 then again in ’02 but unfortunately is still outmoded in the way it deals with gender and sexuality. There are better books out there. Paul Joannides’s Guide to Getting it On has been around since the 90’s and covers a large amount of information with a fun light-hearted fun tone. Sex Made Easy by Debbie Herbenic answers questions about sex and while geared towards women is useful to any gender. An excellent book about senior sex is Naked At Our Age by Joan Price. It reminds us we can have great sex into our golden years.

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Anal August

Sexy Couple in Bed

Another month long sexy celebration! We had Masturbation May and now it’s Anal August. A month to learn new things, try something different or just enjoy sharing some conversation on the subject. Anal sex has become much less taboo over the years and can be a highly pleasurable addition to your sexy time repertoire. Some may balk at the idea because it has been uncomfortable, or downright painful, in the past, or are concerned with the cleanliness factor. There are ways to get around that and make anal sex easy, safe and satisfying. Here are some tips and techniques to get you started or up your anal game this month.

Anal Basics

For those of you who haven’t any prior knowledge, or missed my article on anal toys, here is a short lesson on anatomy. Anal sex is not just about the anus but the lower rectum, the perineum, the prostate as well as the clitoris. It is also not just about penetration with a penis but with fingers, tongue and sex toys. The anus and rectum have many nerve endings. They respond well to touch and pressure. The inner rectum has less nerve endings but is still sensitive to pressure and motion. Internally there is also a connection to the prostate and to the clitoral “legs” (part of the clitoris that extends on either side into the body) that enhances the pleasurable experience. Getting past the sphincter is what makes people think anal sex is painful or uncomfortable. The inner and outer sphincters will tense and tighten when stressed, scared or anxious. The rectum has delicate tissue so it’s important take the right steps to relax and lubricate to not damage them. Things to always remember are; take your time and use lots of lube. Ultimately it’s the ability to get your sphincter to not clench up too much that will alleviate most of the discomfort. Also taking time for the rectum to adjust to being pushed open will help. Start small with just a finger then progressively move up to larger things like more fingers, anal beads, a butt plug, dildo or penis. Orgasm can be achieved since anal sex stimulates the clitoral legs and clitoris, prostate massage through anal sex can also trigger orgasm.

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Summer Sex Bucket List

Sexy Couple at the Beach

Don’t worry, summer isn’t over yet! You still have plenty of time to keep it sizzling. 

Go Skinny Dipping

Sure it sounds like something you may have done in high school, but I assure you, the level of fun and naughtiness doesn’t diminish with age. There is something inherently sexy about being fully naked and immersed in water. Add a partner to that action and there are no limits to how much excitement you can have. The easiest way to check this item off you list is to find a nude beach or naturist facility. If you don’t have one of those areas available to you, or if you want to live on the edge, you can always sneak out to the beach at midnight under the cover of darkness. Depending on where you live, there may be laws against public nudity, so please dip accordingly.