Sex Ed Books
Acquiring knowledge is a life long endeavor. One always has something to learn no matter how old you get. Reading some good sex education books can solidify things you learned ages ago or fill in the gaps in your knowledge that can often happen over a lifetime. The aforementioned The Joy of Sex was updated in ’92 then again in ’02 but unfortunately is still outmoded in the way it deals with gender and sexuality. There are better books out there. Paul Joannides’s Guide to Getting it On has been around since the 90’s and covers a large amount of information with a fun light-hearted fun tone. Sex Made Easy by Debbie Herbenic answers questions about sex and while geared towards women is useful to any gender. An excellent book about senior sex is Naked At Our Age by Joan Price. It reminds us we can have great sex into our golden years.
The Science of Sex
There are books that look into how our brains and bodies work during sex, and the study of sexuality itself. Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Sex and Science by Mary Roach is a hilarious look at the study of sexuality. Mating in Captivity by Ester Perel looks at our “erotic intelligence,” sustaining desire and modern intimacy. Sexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty Klein goes into how we think during sex to help us have a more fulfilling sex life. Another interesting look at the science of sex is This is Your Brain on Sex by Kayt Sukel. Originally publish until the title Dirty Minds, this book even finds Kayt taking a look at what orgasms look like with an MRI. Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan looks into the history of relationships and the origins of sexual behavior all the way back to prehistory. It’s also helpful to visit classics like Masters and Johnson’s Human Sexual Response, especially now that it’s a popular TV show.
There are tons of books out there to help you get the most out of getting it on. Great in Bed by Debbie Herbenic not only gives you tips and skill but also discusses confidence and positive self-image. Sex is Fun by Kidder Kaper helps you talk to your partner about sex, desires and fantasies in a fun comic book style workbook. Sex: How To Do Everything by Em and Lo is a coffee table style book that might be basic but covers lots of ground. A similar book is Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight by Emily Morse (of Sex With Emily) and Jayme Waxman. Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex covers a wide range of topics for both the newbie and the advance adventurer. Good books specializing in oral sex are She Comes First and He Comes Next by Ian Kerner, The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue and The Best Oral Sex Ever (for him and her) by Yvonne Fulbright are good places to start. For more info about g-spot orgasms try The Secret of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation by Tristan Taormino and Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl.
Beyond The Basics Part 1: Anal Pleasure
There are some great books out there about anal sex. Jack Morin’s Anal Pleasure and Health covers the basics of anal sex for men, women and couples. Tristan Taormino has several anal sex guides like The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex (a book for women and a book for men), and The Anal Sex Position Guide. Charlie Glickman’s book The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure tells you everything you need to know about massaging the prostate, anal sex and pegging (anal sex with a strap-on harness and dildo). Violet Blue has a great book on strap-on sex with The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-on Sex. There’s also The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex by Karlyn Lotney.
Beyond The Basics Part 2: BDSM/Kink
If you have gotten into the Fifty Shades of Grey craze, please remember it’s not a manual about BDSM it is erotic fiction. If you really want to explore your kinky side, read the book as erotica and turn to a well-written guide to learn more about kink. BDSM is about being kinky while being as safe as you can and being risk aware. Start with books from people actually well known in the kink community since they have experience along with their research. Midori’s Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink, Jay Wiseman’s SM 101: A Realistic Introduction, Playing Well With Others by Lee Harrington and Mollina Williams, The Mistress Manual by Mistress Lorelei, Fetish Sex: An Erotic Guide for Couples by Violet Blue, The Ultimate Guide to Kink by Tristan Taormino and When Someone You Love is Kinky by Dossie Easton are all great places to start.
Beyond the Basics Part 3: Non-Monogamy
Interested in looking into the world of non-monogamy? There is much to learn about all the different aspects of non-monogamy from Polyamory, to Swinging, to Open Relationships. Great primers are Opening Up by Tristan Taormino, The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Open by Jenny Block. Great Polyamory books are Eight Things I Wish I Had Known About Polyamory by Cunning Minx, Polyamory in the 21st Century by Deborah Anapol and Love in Abundance by Kathy Labriola. Informative books about the Swinging lifestyle are The Swinger Manual by Just Ask Julie and The Lifestyle: A look at the erotic life of swingers by Terry Gould. Good books on non-monogamy are few and far between and always remember that ethical non-monogamy is not infidelity, all parties know and consent to open up.
The Ultimate Library
I feel like I only scratched the surface of great books about sexuality. There isn’t even any room for erotica! The best advice I can give you is don’t ever stop learning. We can always discover something new on our life long journey. Many of the authors listed here have written libraries of their own with more excellent books than I can list here. Authors like Debbie Herbenic, Dossie Easton, Tristan Taormino, Dr. Marty Klein, Violet Blue, Kathy Labriola, Deborah Anapol, Ian Kerner, Yvonne Fulbright, Jay Wiseman, Midori, and others are worth looking into their entire bibliography. I may have missed some good books too, so much is out there and new books come out all the time. So find time to curl up with a sexy book and stimulate that amazing sex organ, your brain.
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