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Wednesday, August 14, 2013

6 Tips to be a Sexy Goddess for Your Partner

We all like to believe we make our partner happy, in many ways, but let’s talk about ways to make your partner happy sexually. If I asked your partner – what would they say? Before we find out anything negative, I’ll share some tips to help you be a sex goddess for your partner.

When people find out I’m a Relationship Coach and a Master Sexpert, their first comment is to tell me how great they are in bed. However, they need to understand there is always something new to learn or something new to try. So, let’s talk about things you can do to be the sex goddess your partner wants... and it is likely to help you enjoy sex more. 


Tip #1 – Open Your Mind and Be Willing to Learn and Try New Things

Even if you know your partner loves things you do to them sexually, don’t stop there. Try new things and take the initiative. It is great to ask if he would like to do something new or a bit different, but if you want to suggest something very different from your norm – ask your partner before things get steamy. There is less pressure if you’re not in naked when you make the suggestion.

Tip #2 – Be Open and Honest With Your Partner

Take the initiative to start a conversation about something new you would like to try. Over the coming weeks and months we’ll share many articles on this site that give tips on how to improve your sex life. When you talk to your partner about what you want – be specific and if you talk erotically, he’ll love it.

Tip #3 – Get In Touch With Your Sexuality

Many women of all ages were raised to believe they shouldn’t think about or be in touch with their own sexuality. Gasp – I know this will get me in trouble with a lot of people, but… that is a crock. If you wait for a man to show you what you need to know – you will likely be disappointed. Likely he doesn’t understand a woman’s sexuality either.

Ladies, when you don’t understand your body and what turns you on, it is impossible to help your partner please you. He will do the things he thinks you like – and he likely learned this from other guys, porn or some other less than reliable source. When you understand and take charge of your sexuality, you can help your man know how to please you. Most of the men I’ve asked – love it when a woman is comfortable with and in touch with her sexuality.

Tip #4 – Tell Your Partner What You Want

Let’s take it a step further. The best way to learn about your sexuality is to explore your own body. Yes ladies, masturbation and self-love are great ways to learn what you enjoy. You can look at your body in the mirror or in the shower, and explore your body with your hands or experiment with lube and sex toys, you can learn invaluable information about the things that turn you on. Once you understand, you can tell your man or for a hotter response, use your hands and show him what you want. Getting in touch with your sexuality can be very empowering and satisfying for you and your partner. However, when you let your partner know what you want – always keep the conversation positive to get the most satisfying results for both of you.

Tip #5 – You Don’t Have to Know It All

No one knows everything about love, relationships, intimacy and sex. But, you can keep an open mind; use open, honest and positive communication with your partner; and reach out to your partner, be honest and try new things that you want to do. These are great ways to learn more and to keep your love and sex life interesting for you and your partner. It isn’t good to get into a rut in any part of your life including your sex life. 

Tip #6 – Words Aren’t Always the Best Way to Communicate

In addition to telling your partner what you want and how you want it – show him what you want. If he’s not touching you the way you want, reach for his hand and guide him where you want him to touch. This also works very well when he’s giving you oral sex – grab his head in your hands and show him what you like and how much you like what he’s doing. Words would work, but your sighs and moans can do the talking for you and gets your whole body involved in the sensual conversation. 

Make time in your relationship for fun and for sexy play. Life is serious and we all have the work, home, family, financial and other responsibilities but make the effort to carve out time with your partner. Spend time focusing on the two of you and keeping your relationship interesting, fun and sexy. Along with keeping it fun, show initiative and enthusiasm with your partner. We all love to know we’re wanted and desired – let your man know you want him and take the time to show him just how much. Believe me, he will return the favor. 

By Nikki Leigh