We
all like to believe we make our partner happy, in many ways, but let’s talk
about ways to make your partner happy sexually. If I asked your partner – what
would they say? Before we find out anything negative, I’ll share some tips to
help you be a sex goddess for your partner.
When
people find out I’m a Relationship Coach and a Master Sexpert, their first
comment is to tell me how great they are in bed. However, they need to
understand there is always something new to learn or something new to try. So, let’s
talk about things you can do to be the sex goddess your partner wants... and it
is likely to help you enjoy sex more.
Tip #1 – Open Your Mind
and Be Willing to Learn and Try New Things
Even
if you know your partner loves things you do to them sexually, don’t stop there.
Try new things and take the initiative. It is great to ask if he would like to
do something new or a bit different, but if you want to suggest something very
different from your norm – ask your partner before things get steamy. There is
less pressure if you’re not in naked when you make the suggestion.
Tip #2 – Be Open and
Honest With Your Partner
Take
the initiative to start a conversation about something new you would like to
try. Over the coming weeks and months we’ll share many articles on this site
that give tips on how to improve your sex life. When you talk to your partner
about what you want – be specific and if you talk erotically, he’ll love it.
Tip #3 – Get In Touch
With Your Sexuality
Many
women of all ages were raised to believe they shouldn’t think about or be in
touch with their own sexuality. Gasp – I know this will get me in trouble with
a lot of people, but… that is a crock. If you wait for a man to show you what
you need to know – you will likely be disappointed. Likely he doesn’t
understand a woman’s sexuality either.
Ladies,
when you don’t understand your body and what turns you on, it is impossible to
help your partner please you. He will do the things he thinks you like – and he
likely learned this from other guys, porn or some other less than reliable
source. When you understand and take charge of your sexuality, you can help
your man know how to please you. Most of the men I’ve asked – love it when a
woman is comfortable with and in touch with her sexuality.
Tip #4 – Tell Your
Partner What You Want
Let’s take it a step further. The
best way to learn about your sexuality is to explore your own body. Yes ladies,
masturbation and self-love are great ways to learn what you enjoy. You can look
at your body in the mirror or in the shower, and explore your body with your
hands or experiment with lube and sex toys, you can learn invaluable
information about the things that turn you on. Once you understand, you can
tell your man or for a hotter response, use your hands and show him what you
want. Getting in touch with your sexuality can be very empowering and
satisfying for you and your partner. However, when you let your partner know
what you want – always keep the conversation positive to get the most
satisfying results for both of you.
Tip #5 – You Don’t Have to Know It All
No one knows everything about
love, relationships, intimacy and sex. But, you can keep an open mind; use
open, honest and positive communication with your partner; and reach out to
your partner, be honest and try new things that you want to do. These are great
ways to learn more and to keep your love and sex life interesting for you and
your partner. It isn’t good to get into a rut in any part of your life including
your sex life.
Tip #6 – Words Aren’t Always the Best Way to
Communicate
In addition to telling your partner
what you want and how you want it – show him what you want. If he’s not
touching you the way you want, reach for his hand and guide him where you want
him to touch. This also works very well when he’s giving you oral sex – grab
his head in your hands and show him what you like and how much you like what
he’s doing. Words would work, but your sighs and moans can do the talking for
you and gets your whole body involved in the sensual conversation.
Make time in your relationship
for fun and for sexy play. Life is serious and we all have the work, home,
family, financial and other responsibilities but make the effort to carve out
time with your partner. Spend time focusing on the two of you and keeping your
relationship interesting, fun and sexy. Along with keeping it fun, show
initiative and enthusiasm with your partner. We all love to know we’re wanted
and desired – let your man know you want him and take the time to show him just
how much. Believe me, he will return the favor.
By Nikki Leigh
