Bedroom Insider

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Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Lube 101 - Wetter is Better

Biologically we naturally lubricate when we are sexually aroused. The lubrication produced helps facilitate sexual intercourse by reducing friction between the vagina and penis. But we don’t only have PV sex, and not all of us are having sex just to procreate. We engage in all kinds of sexual activities and most of the time our natural lubrication can’t keep up with the duration of our sex sessions. The use of lube is NOT a sign that you aren’t turned on enough or a cop out. Lube is a great staple to include in your solo and partnered sex life and everyone has heard that wetter is better!

Like the colors of the rainbow, lube comes in many different varieties. Lubes can be water, silicone, or oil based and each of these has their benefits. Some things to keep in mind while lube shopping-

Water based lubes are great and condom friendly! They can closely mimic your own lubrication and are readily available at almost any store. Flavored lubes, usually water based, are great for oral sex although I would caution you to try them before you buy them. You don’t want it to taste like cough medicine, unless that is your thing. You can usually find small sample sized packs of lube, flavored and regular, in stores. Think of it like bulk candy, buy a bunch and see which ones you like! Also, do not use flavored lube in the vagina. Yeast loves sugar and that is exactly what you are putting into your vagina. Switch over to water based if internal play is on your agenda.

Oil Based Lubricant

Oil based lubes are great because they can stay wetter much longer than water based. The downside is that pairing oil based lubes with latex condoms can compromise the condom and lead to breakage. Not good. I say leave the oil to massages and stick to water or silicone based lubes for sex play.

Silicone lube is great for extended play and anal because it won’t dry out as quickly as water based lubricant, but the taste can be unpleasant and clean up can be a little more involved. It is latex friendly but do not pair it up with a silicone sex toy. The two together will cause your toy to disintegrate and become sticky and no one likes a sticky dildo.

Other Lubricants

Some lubes are touted as “anal specific” because they contain the numbing chemical benzocaine and I do NOT recommend the use of these. You need to know when something is hurting and being numb in the rear region can lead to injuries.
Organic and natural lubes aren’t just for tree-huggers and hippies. These lubes are great if you have chemical sensitivities to paraben or glycerin. They are also good if you are prone to yeast infections because of the sugars in regular lube. And for the animal lovers, there are vegan options too.

So next time you’re about to get down, reach for some lube. Whether it is a solo or partnered session, make sure you are adequately lubricated. Put a few drops inside of the condom before you put it on your partner for added sensation for them or try some warming lube to keep things hot. If you’re feeling a little dry its ok to stop and add some more lube to the party. The possibilities are endless.

By Megan Stubbs