The difference between a vibrator and a dildo is, just as
one of the words implies, vibration. A vibrator is any sex toy that uses
vibration for stimulation and can come in a variety of shapes. A dildo doesn’t
vibrate and is penis or phallic shaped for penetration. A dildo can have a
pocket to insert a bullet vibe to convert it into a vibrator. Dildos shapes may
not vary as much a vibrator but there are still lots of options out there. Here
is an overview to help you pick one out that works for you. Have one that works
for everything or have a variety to suit your needs.
Phallic shape is subject to interpretation
Merriam-Webster defines a dildo as “An object resembling a
penis used for sexual stimulation.” Dildos can come in a variety of phallic
shapes. Some are exquisitely detailed and realistic in shape. There are almost
as many varieties in life like dildos as there are real life penises. They come
in different lengths, different widths, and different textures. You can find
shorter more slender ones, bigger and wider ones, a thickly flanged head or a
slim one, balls attached or ball free. There are even dildos that have detailed
veins on the shaft to add more texture. You can pick the color that suits your
taste since you can find them in a variety of skin tones and some wacky colors
too. You can also make a cast of someone’s penis for a homemade custom-made dildo. This can be tricky, and a little messy, but if all works out right
you’ll have a duplicate of the penis you know and love. If realistic is not
what you’re looking for, there are shapes with no detail at all just simple
cylinders. There are others that still look somewhat like a penis but have more
artistic shapes and textures designed not to replicate an actual penis but to
enhance pleasure with spirals, nubs and swirls. While dildos can be used for
any kind of insertion, you can get dildos specifically shaped and designed for
anal play.
Straight, natural curve or G-spot curve
Phallic shaped dildos are often molded with the curve most
penises have in nature; a soft curve as it nears the head. This shape can be
found in realistic looking dildos and in stylized dildos. There are also
realistic and stylized dildos that are perfectly straight. Some dildos have a
more pronounced curve at the end. This puts it in the right shape to better
stimulate the g-spot. A specific g-spot toy is not always required to hit the
g-spot but some people may find it necessary to hit it at just the right angle for
the best stimulation. G-spot dildos are usually less realistic looking although
they can have a head like shape on it. G-spot toys can come in longer styles or
with an end that looks like a handle. This is to help find that perfect spot
without having to bend and stretch too much to get there. There are P-spot
dildos too, specifically designed for anal use and curved to hit the prostate.
This is similar to the G-spot and can be highly pleasurable when stimulated. Many
of the realistic shaped dildos I described will come with suction cup bases.
This will secure it for hands free fun.
Strap-on specific and packers
Some dildos are specifically shaped for strap-on harness
use. You can still use one without a harness but not all dildos are the right
shape for harness use. You need a flanged base or a good set of balls to keep a
dildo firmly in place while worn with a harness. Another type of dildo is the
packer. Female to male transgender men who have not fully transitioned,
although people who cross dress as men or role-play use this too, use these.
Soft packers are not designed for penetration but are softer realistic versions
of a flaccid penis. Used in a packing strap, jock strap or jockey shorts, they
give the wearer the look and feel of a real penis. Harder packing dildos that
are more rigid or have a wire to switch from flaccid to an erect position can
be purchased for sex.
Many materials to choose from
Materials range from the inexpensive to the pricey, from the
synthetic to the natural. Most beginners will opt for cheaper jelly dildos since
they’re experimenting and not too concerned with long-term use. Jelly dildos
and PVC are hard to clean and can leach harmful phthalates so it’s highly
recommend covering them with a condom when using. Once you’ve decided on the
shape and style that suites you upgrade to a better quality dildo, you’ll be
happy you did. Medical grade silicone, medical grade stainless steel, high
quality aluminum, glass, stone, and high quality sealed wood and ceramic are
all good body-safe options. Pick from a reputable company and do some online
research if you’re not sure of the material used in a toy. Some companies have
been saying their product is made of silicone but it’s not the body safe
medical grade kind. Materials like Cyberskin and Softskin can make dildos feel
more realistic but they can be very difficult to clean, especially Softskin
which seems to attract every bit of lint to it like a magnet, and can melt or
leach chemicals if not cared for or stored properly. Take care with the type of
lube you use as some dildos are not compatible with all lubes. Some can break
down and ruin your dildo, not something you want to have happen with an
expensive toy.
Double your pleasure, double your fun
There are double ended dildos for double penetration or to
add someone else to the party. Double dildos have a dildo at each end and come
straight, curved or flexible. The ends are usually penis shaped but can come in
other shapes. Some flexible ones are wired to keep their shape when bent.
Others are curved and specially shaped for simultaneous vaginal and anal
penetrations, with one end usually being shorter than the other. There are also
double dildos that are specifically designed for one end to be inserted and
used like a hands free strap-on but without the harness. The inserted half is
shaped to fit better anatomically than just a phallic shaped end.
Other varieties, the artsy to the unusual
Some dildos are more “out of the box” in their design concept.
There are some exquisitely beautiful glass dildos out there in lovely shapes
and colors. On the more bizarre side, you can find dildos
shaped like comic book characters, vegetables, zombies, vampires, dragons, werewolves, and tentacles. I’m sure that’s
only the tip of the iceberg. If you can mold it, it’s been made into a dildo.
By: Technogeisha
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