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Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Squirting 101: How to Squirt

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Squirting. Is it the holy grail of a woman's sexual pleasure? Is it overblown? Is it really a sexual response at all? Read on to find out.

The Science of Squirting

There have been a lot of studies that indicate squirting is or isn't urine – or related to urine at the very least. Because of a lack of research on the study, it's difficult to be sure. New science may come out tomorrow that tells us even more about squirting. But here's what we know so far. If you're a woman who can squirt, you probably already know this!

During sex or masturbation, a woman's bladder quickly fills with fluid, including prostate fluid from the G-spot. If you find that you squirt just a little during sex, it might only be prostate fluid. For most women who are able to ejaculate, this liquid is ejaculated during a vaginal/G-spot orgasm. However, some women are able to squirt without any orgasm at all!

Although squirting seems really popular in porn, it's not something that every woman finds herself able or even willing to do! It also tends to look different in person. While you can push out more ejaculate by bearing down with your PC muscles – the opposite you would do to stop the flow of urine – it doesn't tend to dribble or bubble out from the vagina. In porn, women who “squirt” are sometimes pushing out water that they've been holding in their vagina for effect.

Can Everyone Squirt?

It's difficult to determine how many women can squirt it for several reasons. First, some women's G-spots aren't particularly responsive to even direct stimulation. Secondly, that lack of research makes it difficult to pinpoint what enables squirting. Finally, some women may be able to squirt but hold back because they're worried it's urine.

Recently, one study concluded that it was urine simply because a woman's ejaculate comes from the bladder and exits through the urethra, which has made some women -- and their partners -- reluctant to try squirting. Squirters don't necessarily agree with this search, however. Their experiences prove otherwise! Medication that affects urine doesn't affect a woman's ejaculate.

Regardless, squirting can be erotic and pleasurable if you're willing to give it a go. Make sure to put a few towels beneath you or invest in a Liberator Throe if you're a serious squirter. This blanket keeps the mess to a minimum! It's great for cleanup during sex even if you don't squirt, and you can protect your sheets from lube stains, too.

Finding Your G-Spot, the Key to Squirting

If you want to become one of the lucky few who can squirt, you'll need to get pretty comfortable with your G-spot. It's located along the front wall of your vagina, near your pubic bone. Feel around for a "valley." In the dip, your fingers will feel some grape-like bumps. That's your hot button!

Stimulate your G-spot to build up the fluid you'll squirt. As you do this, it may feel like you have to pee, so relax your body.

The type of stimulation that you require to squirt may vary. Not every woman responds to the same techniques. Here are just a few ideas:

  • Press a vibrator against your G-spot. Gradually turn up the intensity. 
  • Thrust hard and fast with a toy that has plenty of texture. 
  • Slowly drag a firmer toy against your G-spot as you stroke outward. Insert the toy once more without touching your G-spot, and drag it out. Repeat as necessary. 
  • Have a partner use his fingers in a "Come hither" motion against your G-spot or find a toy with a curved, hooked or bulbous end that can hit all the right spots. Many people love the Pure Wand, but if you're on a budget or unsure how your G-spot will respond, a simple G-spot vibrator with a curved head and straight handle works just as well. It can also be used for clitoral stimulation.

You might find that something else works well for you. You might prefer clitoral stimulation along with G-spot play. Because the G-spot is really the inner part of your clitoris, this works well. Some women like when they or a partner rests a hand on their mons pubis (the fleshy area above your clitoris) providing simultaneous stimulation from both directions.

No matter what, make sure you're comfortable and relaxed. Many women find it useful to urinate before (and after) squirting. Try it on your own if you're worried what your partner will think of it, but we're willing to bet most people are into seeing, feeling and even tasting it when you squirt!

Here's a tip: many women find it easier to squirt when they're not being penetrated. So have your partner pull out or remove the toy you're using as the pressure builds up. Otherwise, you could experience retrograde ejaculation. This isn't harmful, but may be uncomfortable. Your ejaculate will move back toward your bladder, and you'll urinate it out the next time you go to the bathroom.

For some women, squirting is interesting, but it doesn't add much in terms of pleasure. It can be exciting to discover your body and unlock all its secrets. Many partners enjoy when their women can squirt, too. But if you don't love squirting or feel uncomfortable with the having-to-pee sensation, you can feel free to back off or simply stick to other sexual activities.

And if you feel like a superhero once you unlock your ability to squirt or if it makes your orgasms

By: Adriana Ravenlust
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