Dirty Talk for Shy Women

How many times have you been in the grocery store checkout line and seen the latest copy of Cosmo on the racks? Have you noticed how often the headlines include something about “talking dirty” for your man? It’s a popular topic and especially with the increase in sexting and online chats. But there are many other ways to utilize dirty talk or you may prefer naughty talk.

I’ve talked to many women that are intrigued by the idea of talking “dirty” to their partner, but they are concerned about how it may be perceived or they may not be comfortable using graphic words. Let’s talk about some ways you can work around both of these concerns.

How Will May Partner Feel About Talking Dirty

This is a logical concern and especially for women who tend to be more reserved or conservative. So, let’s look at some ways to ease into talking dirty. That will give you a chance to test the waters and see how your partner will respond.

You can start with some simple things. When he kisses you and especially if he kisses your neck or another spot you enjoy, moan softly. It doesn’t have to be an exaggerated moan, just enough to let him hear and to vocalize you are enjoying what he’s doing. You can also send a message or a text that says something as simple as “I can’t wait to see you when you get home” or maybe “I’d love to set aside some private time with you tonight”.

Playing With Cock Rings

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What are cock rings?

A cock ring is a toy for the boy. It is used to help men maintain their erection. The penis is composed of spongy tissue that swells up with blood when aroused. A cock ring can help trap the blood within those tissues and can create a longer lasting or more firm erection. Some versions can be worn around the base of the penis and others go around the penis and scrotum.

Cock rings can be made of different materials like rubber, silicone, and metal. I recommend that you start out your play with a material that is able to stretch and have some give. I’m sure many people have heard horror stories about having to take a late night trip to the ER to get it removed because it is too tight. Since you do not know how your, or your partners, body will respond, it is important for you to be able to safely remove the ring if need be. Once you get to know your body, you can start playing with firmer materials like metal and wood.

Introducing Sex Toys – Anal Toys

We’ve been introduced to the vibrator, next up is anal toys. Now you can’t just dive right into this new relationship, it takes patience and care. You’ve got to take your time getting to know these toys. They might seem daunting or even downright frightening. There’s also worry about cleanliness, pain or even injury. Using these toys safely and properly can introduce a wonderful new level of pleasure to your relationship. It may not be for you, and that’s ok. Try different things and see what works for you. Anal toys can also be a great precursor to anal sex. There are safety issues that are necessary to discuss so unlike the vibrator introduction, this one will include an extremely basic “how-to” beforehand.

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Technique

You may be wondering, “how does an anal toy provide pleasure?” Anal toys work for both men and women. In men, pressure against the p-spot (an area adjacent to the prostate) provokes a pleasurable sensation. In women, the close proximity to the internal portions of the clitoris (yes, the clitoris is also internal!) and the g-spot also make anal play pleasurable. Anal penetration can trigger orgasm in both men and women. Some like the pressure and full feeling as it adds to their arousal during foreplay and/or sex. With so many nerve ending around the anus and inside the rectum, there are many options for sexy play.