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Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Introducing Sex Toys – The Vibrator


Vibrator in chest of drawers


I’d like to continue our introduction to sex toys with something very basic, a vibrator. What’s interesting about the vibrator is that it has evolved since the earlier phallic shaped “massagers” most of us have seen. Vibrators now come in all sorts of shapes, configurations and styles. They also come in a variety of materials like silicone, metal, glass and even ceramic. So without further ado… Relationship, meet the vibrator.

Why a Vibrator?

Adding vibration can be stimulating for both partners. A vibrator can be used during foreplay to tease over the top of clothes or along bare skin, around nipples, on the clitoris or in the vagina. You can use it in front of your partner, allowing them to watch you as you please yourself. A little seductive voyeurism! It also gives you a chance to show your partner where you really like to be touched. Your partner can use it on you, adding to caresses and touches with the purring of the vibrator. You can use it to enhance oral sex. It can also be used during sex to increase stimulation, help to find that elusive peak or help to continue when one partner is spent but would like to continue to please their partner. The vibrator is not for the female body alone, men can use vibrators too. It can be pressed against the nipples, penis, balls, perineum and anus to add more stimulation. Experiment all over. You might find a spot that works wonders for you.



Corded Wand Massager

The wand massager started out as just that; a back, neck and shoulder massager that just happens to be “magic” when used elsewhere. While I’m hinting at the classic “Magic Wand Original” (known until recently as the Hitachi Magic Wand) there are other companies that have gotten on the wand massager bandwagon. Wands are shaped like, well… wands. A long handle with an oval, rounded end that vibrates. The handle has all the controls. You can get attachments to add to the head. There’s also a version called the Eroscillator that has various attachments. It’s usually used for clitoral and vulva stimulation but works nicely on the penis and testicles. This is usually an intense vibration. If you happen to be easy to orgasm this might be too strong but don’t let that deter you from trying.

Traditional Vibrator

The penis, or phallic, shaped vibrator is the most common shape. It takes the dildo and kicks it up a notch by adding vibration. You may be familiar with the “personal massager” you’ve seen in the novelty store. You know, the one with a photo of a woman holding it to her back with a smile that says, “Yeah, we both know this isn’t how you’re going to use it.” Vibrators now come in everything from realistic penis shapes and colors, to bright colors and with different bumps and ridges. There are specific g-spot vibes curved like a beckoning finger to press again the sensitive spot at the front of the vagina. You can also get mini vibes or bullet vibes that are pocket-sized versions. Some are so small they provide only clitoral stimulation but some can be used like a basic vibrator just in a smaller scale. They are great for travel or to have tucked away discreetly in a bedside table. The basic vibrator can also be used on the male body just like the magic wand. Don’t let the shape scare you.

Dual Stimulators

A dual stimulator has a clitoral stimulator along with the vaginal stimulator. The external clitoral stimulator is located in just the right spot to provide stimulation while inserted. They often come in variable speed and patterns while some even have beads and shapes to add to vaginal stimulation. The most well known style of dual stimulator is the Rabbit. The Rabbit may have gained recent fame due to Sex in the City, but it’s been around for a while. It gets its name from the shape of the clitoral stimulator that has two prongs sticking out. The Rabbit is not the only style, though. Other types of dual stimulators have varied shapes; anything from a realistic dildo with clitoral stimulator to just a curved “C” shape that can be used internally while providing clitoral stimulation.

Clitoral Stimulators

These types of vibrators are not designed for insertion but for clitoral stimulation only. The shape is designed to fit the palm of the hand or on the fingers. The shape options are nearly endless. I’ve seen ovals, leaf shapes, elongated shapes, two prongs, butterflies, starfish, rubber duckies, rockets and fluttery wheels. You can even find ones with a remote control making use during sex a little easier. The remote could be used for foreplay fun too. The vibrator can be used to enhance clitoral stimulation during penetration. This is great for those who find they can only climax this way and not through internal or g-spot stimulation.

Couples’ Vibrators

There are a few vibrators specifically designed for couples. Some are designed to be worn externally while having sex and others are ergonomically designed for both partners during sex while inserted. You can find clitoral stimulators that can strap on during sex. You can also get vibrating cock rings. These are stretchy rings worn at the base of the penis, balls or around the penis and balls. Vibrating cock rings have small bullet vibes built into the ring and extend out to provide clitoral stimulation. You can also get specially designed curved vibes with one small end that can be inserted and still leave room for a penis while the other stimulates externally. This way both partners get full force of the vibration.

Anal Vibrators

Anal vibrators come in a variety of shapes and sizes, specifically designed for anal use. Vibrating anal toys will either have a built in vibe or a slot for a bullet vibe to be inserted. Pressure combined with vibrations against the prostate, or p-spot, with anal toys can be very enjoyable. Some are even designed to add stimulation to the perineum while inserted.

Conclusion

As with any toy you introduce, if you think your partner will be uncomfortable with a new toy make sure you talk it over with them first. Look for a high quality body safe product and make sure to read the instructions. Some vibes are rechargeable but will require a long charging time, especially in their first use. Don’t want to get all worked up to use a new toy and find it needs to charge for 8 hours first. Make sure to clean properly before and after use. Take time to explore and you should find a fun and stimulating new addition to partnered play.

By: Technogeisha

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