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Thursday, March 20, 2014

Female Ejaculation 101



 Female Ejaculation
 


Female ejaculation, also known as squirting or gushing, has gone from myth to reality and back to myth about as many times as the g-spot. While some are touting that it, like the g-spot, doesn’t exist there are still many others whose experience say otherwise. Female ejaculation does happen; it just doesn’t happen to everyone and may not happen all the time. Let’s look into the mechanics behind female ejaculation, the difference between ejaculation and squirting/gushing, and dispel some misconceptions. Perhaps you’ll gain greater understanding of why you do it if you already do it or give you ideas of how to get it going if you’ve never experienced it.

A History Lesson

Reports of female ejaculation have shown up in ancient literature. It’s written about in the Kama Sutra, in 4th century China, in ancient Greece and Rome, 16th century Japan, the South Pacific, even in Catholic documents dating back to the Middle Ages. In the 16th and 17th centuries we find references in a couple of physician’s documents, Dutch physician Laevinius Lemnius in the 16th century and François Mauriceau in the 17th century. In the 17th century, Dutch anatomist Regnier de Graaf’s studies included female ejaculation and he was the earliest to begin to identify a part of the vagina that he linked to the male prostate. This made him the first to refer to the periurethral glands as the female prostate. Studies continued up until the 19th century when Alexander Skene would also identify the periurethral glands (glands around the urethra) that would be later known as the Skene Glands. Ernst Gräfenberg’s work in the 20th century provide more knowledge about this erogenous or erotic spot in the vagina, now known at the Gräfenberg or G-spot, while also observing female ejaculation. Interest in female ejaculation has only recently come to the forefront of both conversation and research.

An Anatomy Lesson

Female ejaculation is linked to the paraurethral ducts in and around the urethra. This can occur before or during orgasm. Near the urethra, which is between the clitoral and the vaginal opening, are the Skene’s glands while below the vagina you’ll find Bartholin’s glands. The Bartholin’s glands secrete a thick fluid to lubricate the vagina and vulva. The Skene’s glands, near the urethral opening, drain into the urethra and is near, or a may be part of, the g-spot. These glands are surrounded with tissue, including part of the clitoris that reaches up inside the vagina. It swells with blood during sexual arousal and may be where the fluid excretions originate from during female ejaculation. The exact cause or method of initiating female ejaculation is still not precisely known, nor exactly what the fluid is since research has proven inconclusive. Some say stimulation of the g-spot triggers ejaculation but others have said it isn’t necessary. There does seem to be more than one type of fluid, which leads me to the next subject: female ejaculation vs. squirting/gushing.

A Fluid Properties Lesson

A fairly recent study showed that there seems to be a distinct different between female ejaculation and the other phenomena known as squirting or gushing. Female ejaculation is often attributed to a milky white fluid, originating from Skene’s glands, that flows rather than shooting out in great quantities. Squirting or gushing is said to be a clear fluid that originates from the urinary bladder. Neither is technically urine, although the fluid that is produced for squirting may have similar properties. Fluid from female ejaculation appears to be closer to that produced by the male prostate, containing PSA, which is found in the male prostate and is biochemically similar to semen. The larger amounts of clear fluid may be produced similarly to urine but does not have the same exact composition, more like diluted urine. 

A “How To” Lesson

First, have some towels under you. If you’ve never experienced this before it’s best to be prepared for a deluge, even if in the end it’s only a trickle. Some women find female ejaculation easy to accomplish while others find it elusive. For some, triggering female ejaculation is a matter of firm pressure on the g-spot area when it’s engorged. The g-spot is adjacent to the Skene’s glands, which is also connected to the clitoral nerve endings, all housed in the spongy area between the vagina and the clitoris. Simultaneous stimulation of the urethral area can help too. Some find any deep penetration works for them, while others find it’s only deep penetration in a specific position, such as being on top or reverse cowgirl. A wedge or pillow might be needed to get the right angle. A sex toy designed for specific g-spot stimulation can often get the fluids flowing. You can also use two fingers in a “come hither” style of fingering in which you use two fingers that pull forward in a stroking beckoning gesture. Gentle beckoning fingers might be enough but some people need more intense pressure. I know some women where just clitoral stimulation alone is enough to get the flow going. A Hitachi Magic Wand is a high powered way to get there but some find a regular vibrator or manual stimulation is all they need. 

There’s No End to This Lesson

Experiment to find what works for you and don’t be discouraged if you never achieve it. Female ejaculation doesn’t work for everyone. Studies have suggested that some women lack the necessary components to trigger it. While it might be tied to more intense orgasms, female ejaculation in of itself does not improve the quality of your sexual experience. Also, be aware that after you have your first ejaculation you may not be able to stop it or pick when and where it happens next. You may always have to have towels, a blanket throw that is lined to be waterproof, to prevent soaking everything. There are DVDs and books that can help if you need more instruction or information. Educators like Tristan Taormino, Ducky Doolittle, and Sunny Megatron offer workshops and online info that is very helpful. Figuring out how to trigger ejaculation could be a fun way to get to know your body a little better. It’s a continuing lesson on finding all the different ways to achieve pleasure and orgasm. The journey is as important as the destination.


By: Technogeisha
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1 comment :

  1. i always thought this was one of those urban myths, none of my GF's had ever done it, and i had no idea how to "make" myself do it, until that one night....
    i'd been teasing my husband all night at a party, i was still dressed for work in a pinstripe business suit, was very late when we finally got home, and of course we decided it was a great time for sex ! i really was in awe of his stamina that night, we changed positions several times, back and forth, up, down, sideways, and probably upside down, i'd orgasmed several times, and had "suggested" that it was ok if he didnt cum.
    i ended up on my back, my legs on his shoulders, and he was "short stroking" me very fast, i left like i was going to pee, and the thought crossed my mind i was going to ask him to stop. about that time, he grunted that he was gonna cum, and i thought FINALLY!!
    he suddenly stopped thrusting, and sunk into me all the way, just as i felt him ejaculate, i had the strangest feeling "down there" i thought i'd pee'd over over him, but he assured me it wasnt pee, and that i'd squirted, and it was ok.
    we were both soaking wet, as were the sheets and pillow i was laying on.
    i was totally exhausted by now, (kinda feeling like i know how he feels sometimes) after that intense orgasm.
    ive mangaed to squirt a couple times since then, but never with that intensity

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