Female ejaculation, also known as squirting or gushing, has
gone from myth to reality and back to myth about as many times as the g-spot. While
some are touting that it, like the g-spot, doesn’t exist there are still many
others whose experience say otherwise. Female ejaculation does happen; it just
doesn’t happen to everyone and may not happen all the time. Let’s look into the
mechanics behind female ejaculation, the difference between ejaculation and
squirting/gushing, and dispel some misconceptions. Perhaps you’ll gain greater
understanding of why you do it if you already do it or give you ideas of how to
get it going if you’ve never experienced it.
A History Lesson
Reports of female ejaculation have shown up in ancient
literature. It’s written about in the Kama Sutra, in 4th century China, in
ancient Greece and Rome, 16th century Japan, the South Pacific, even in
Catholic documents dating back to the Middle Ages. In the 16th and 17th
centuries we find references in a couple of physician’s documents, Dutch
physician Laevinius Lemnius in the 16th century and François Mauriceau in the 17th century. In the
17th century, Dutch anatomist Regnier
de Graaf’s studies included female ejaculation and he was the earliest to
begin to identify a part of the vagina that he linked to the male prostate.
This made him the first to refer to the periurethral glands as the female
prostate. Studies continued up until the 19th century when Alexander Skene would
also identify the periurethral glands (glands around the urethra) that
would be later known as the Skene Glands. Ernst Gräfenberg’s
work in the 20th century provide more knowledge about this erogenous or erotic
spot in the vagina, now known at the Gräfenberg or G-spot, while also observing
female ejaculation. Interest in female ejaculation has only recently come to
the forefront of both conversation and research.
An Anatomy Lesson
Female ejaculation is linked to the paraurethral ducts
in and around the urethra. This can occur before or during orgasm. Near the
urethra, which is between the clitoral and the vaginal opening, are the Skene’s glands while
below the vagina you’ll find Bartholin’s glands.
The Bartholin’s glands secrete a thick fluid to lubricate the vagina and vulva.
The Skene’s glands, near the urethral opening, drain into the urethra and is
near, or a may be part of, the g-spot. These glands are surrounded with tissue,
including part of the clitoris that reaches up inside the vagina. It swells with
blood during sexual arousal and may be where the fluid excretions originate
from during female ejaculation. The exact cause or method of initiating female
ejaculation is still not precisely known, nor exactly what the fluid is since research
has proven inconclusive. Some say stimulation of the g-spot triggers
ejaculation but others have said it isn’t necessary. There does seem to be more
than one type of fluid, which leads me to the next subject: female ejaculation
vs. squirting/gushing.
A Fluid Properties Lesson
A fairly recent study showed that
there seems to be a distinct different between female ejaculation and the other
phenomena known as squirting or gushing. Female ejaculation is often attributed
to a milky white fluid, originating from Skene’s glands, that flows rather than
shooting out in great quantities. Squirting or gushing is said to be a clear
fluid that originates from the urinary bladder. Neither is technically urine,
although the fluid that is produced for squirting may have similar properties.
Fluid from female ejaculation appears to be closer to that produced by the male
prostate, containing PSA, which is
found in the male prostate and is biochemically similar to semen. The larger
amounts of clear fluid may be produced similarly to urine but does not have the
same exact composition, more like diluted urine.
A “How To” Lesson
First, have some towels under you. If you’ve never
experienced this before it’s best to be prepared for a deluge, even if in the
end it’s only a trickle. Some women find female ejaculation easy to accomplish
while others find it elusive. For some, triggering female ejaculation is a
matter of firm pressure on the g-spot area when it’s engorged. The g-spot is
adjacent to the Skene’s glands, which is also connected to the clitoral nerve
endings, all housed in the spongy area between the vagina and the clitoris. Simultaneous
stimulation of the urethral area can help too. Some find any deep penetration
works for them, while others find it’s only deep penetration in a specific
position, such as being on top or reverse cowgirl. A wedge or pillow might be
needed to get the right angle. A sex toy designed for specific g-spot stimulation
can often get the fluids flowing. You can also use two fingers in a “come
hither” style of fingering in which you use two fingers that pull forward in a stroking
beckoning gesture. Gentle beckoning fingers might be enough but some people
need more intense pressure. I know some women where just clitoral stimulation
alone is enough to get the flow going. A Hitachi Magic Wand is a high powered
way to get there but some find a regular vibrator or manual stimulation is all
they need.
There’s No End to This Lesson
Experiment to find what works for you and don’t be
discouraged if you never achieve it. Female ejaculation doesn’t work for
everyone. Studies have suggested that some women lack the necessary components
to trigger it. While it might be tied to more intense orgasms, female ejaculation
in of itself does not improve the quality of your sexual experience. Also, be
aware that after you have your first ejaculation you may not be able to stop it
or pick when and where it happens next. You may always have to have towels, a blanket throw that is lined to be waterproof, to prevent
soaking everything. There are DVDs and books that can help if you need more
instruction or information. Educators like Tristan Taormino, Ducky Doolittle,
and Sunny Megatron offer workshops and online info that is very helpful. Figuring
out how to trigger ejaculation could be a fun way to get to know your body a
little better. It’s a continuing lesson on finding all the different ways to achieve
pleasure and orgasm. The journey is as important as the destination.
By: Technogeisha
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