There’s probably very few of us who’d say no to a massage.
Even the simplest neck massage after a long tough day can feel amazing. Massage
stimulates blood flow, reduces stress and tension, while soothing overworked
muscles. All these things can help put us in a sexy mood. You can use a
combination of traditional message techniques with some sensual touches to make
massage time a part of sexy time. It can be a wonderful part of foreplay, especially
after a long or particularly stressful day when your head and body may not be
feeling too hot. It can also be great bonding time with your partner. Here are
some tips for a sexy and sensual massage.
Setting The Stage
As at a spa, the atmosphere in the room needs to be
conducive to relaxation. You wouldn’t have your client in a brightly lit cold
room with lots of noise so you definitely wouldn’t want a sexy massage in the
same environment. Set the mood with dim/soft lighting. Perhaps changing to low
watt bulbs or light some candles. You can find candles
that will melt into massage oil; they are low temp and safe for the skin. You
can go a little old school and throw a scarf over a lamp for some mood
lighting. Make sure the room is warm enough so your undressed partner is
comfortable. Music can help to set the right tone too, pick something sexy and
soothing. Eliminate any outside noises and distractions. And don’t forget to
turn off your phone!
Having The Right Props
Your hands are your basic tools for a massage but you are
not limited to them. A Magic
Wand may be too intense for this kind of work, try a smaller vibrator for
both the body massage and for more intimate massage later. You can even find fingertip
vibrators. Professional masseuses recommend sweet almond oil or apricot
kernel oil but you can also try a variety such as grape seed oil or coconut
oil. Oils can’t be used internally and shouldn’t be
used with a latex condom as oil breaks them down lessening their effectiveness.
Oils can also promote bacterial infections and irritation if used internally. Avoid
warming and cooling lotions as they can irritate intimate areas rather than
stimulating. If you don’t want to worry about switching oils for internal use,
get a massage oil that can also be used as a lubricant. You can
even find flavored edible massage oil too. Check for parabens and glycerin, an all
natural water based or silicone based massage oil to use for lube later is
recommended. A titillating scent can help too with some vanilla or sandalwood.
Just make sure what you’re adding is safe and your partner is no allergic. Have
towels handy for clean up and use a massage table or the floor instead of the
bed is you can. The bed can be too soft for a comfortable massage.
The Main Event
You’ve set you mood lighting, music and your implements out.
You’ve found a comfortable place to have them lie down and now it’s time to lay
your hands on them. Never squirt oil directly on the skin, apply onto your
hands and rub them together. This will warm the oil before it hits the skin.
Start gently with easy strokes so you don’t tired out too quickly. You don’t
need to knead them the whole time either, use the palms of your hands or the
flat between your knuckles more than your fingers. Start anywhere you like
since a massage is more than just the back muscles. The whole body has
erogenous zones so there are plenty of places to explore. An easy place to
start could be the back with light long strokes from either side of the spine,
up to the shoulders, around the side of the back to the buttocks then up along
side the spine again. Take some time with the shoulders as many people carry
all their tension there. Hips and lower back can lead to buttocks then the
thighs, back of the knees, calves, and ankles. You can use a soft circular
motion with your palms and can add light strokes with your fingertips. When
massaging the feet use your thumbs along the soles and ball of the foot, don’t
forget those toes too. Light strokes can feel teasingly good as long as it’s
not too tickly in a way that destroys the mood. Add in the arms and hands, and
don’t’ forget the sensitive areas of the wrist and inner elbow.
The Finale
The head should get some attention too with a neck massage.
Use small circles at the temples and light strokes around the forehead, cheeks,
and jaws. Even a scalp massage with your fingertips can feel amazing. Start
anywhere you want; from the top down, feet up, back outward. You can add a
sensual touch with your mouth by adding kisses, licks and nibbles while you
massage. Pressing your whole body against them can make for some hot skin-to-skin
contact. Once you’ve gotten them relaxed and aroused you can add intimate areas
like the genitals, breast and nipples. A penis will enjoy a nice massage, as
would labia, clitoris and vagina. Massage around the base of the penis and
pubic mound, along the shaft and head. Don’t forget the frenulum, which is ripe
with nerve endings. The pubic mound above the clitoris shouldn’t be ignored,
along with the inner and outer labia. Some may even enjoy pressure around the
anus. Consider a sensual massage a full body experience so you can add these
areas throughout the massage or save them for the end.
The Curtain Call
This doesn’t have to end with sex. In fact, a great way to
make a sensual massage a sexy and relaxing event is to eliminate sex as a necessary
conclusion. Let it flow easily and naturally. Your partner may orgasm during
the massage or they may enjoy just the massage and feel they don’t need a happy
ending. Knowing that it’s ok will take the pressure off. Don’t expect the
massage to be instantly reciprocated either. Let your partner enjoy the
afterglow, I’m sure they’ll pay you back in full with your own sensual massage
another time. During the event, stay in tune with your partner by watching and
listening to their reactions. Soft moans and sighs tell you you’re on the right
track; muscle tightening and strained reactions tell you you’re off. Softly ask
if they would like more of something, or less of something. In lieu of
penetrative sex (as using just your fingers and mouth is still sex) you can
choose to cuddle with warm soft full body contact, hugs and kisses. Either way,
enjoy this intimate and bonding moment with your partner.
By: Technogeisha
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