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Thursday, January 28, 2016

Valentine's Day: Sex Toy Gift Giving Tips

Sex toys can be fun to give to your partner any time of the year, but Valentine’s Day is an especially great occasion! However, this can be an incredibly personal gift, and everyone has different preferences and needs when it comes to sex toys that can make it harder to choose the right one. Here are some tips to make that decision a little easier and help you find something your partner will love.

If this would be their first sex toy, keep these things in mind:

For newbies to the world of sex toys, versatility is a particularly important quality - in regard to uses, vibration strengths, and charging methods. More options means more ways they can enjoy the toy!

            Uses: Instead of a vibrator that’s intended for clitoral stimulation only, look for an insertable vibrator which could also be used for clitoral stimulation. Or, try to find a dildo or vibrator that could be used vaginally but can also be used anally or with a harness because of its flared base. Maybe get something waterproof so they’ll have even more chances to use their toy.

            Vibration strength: If your partner hasn’t used a vibrator before, it’s hard to know what kind of vibration they’d prefer. Vibrators with multiple speeds or large ranges of vibration strength present a lot of options and allow the user to find the one that works best for them. LELO’s vibrators are a great choice for this.

            Charging methods: Many vibrators are powered by AA or AAA batteries, but there are also lots of conveniently rechargeable toys to choose from. Some of these rechargeable toys have wall chargers, some have USB chargers, and some have both options. Having both of those options might make using their toy easier and more convenient.

If you want something that is versatile in all the ways I just mentioned, then I highly suggest the LELO Mona 2. It is immensely popular among sex toy reviewers and is known for working well for both vaginal and clitoral stimulation. The vibration ranges from a light tickle to a strong rumble. It is rechargeable via wall charger or USB.

It’s probably best to stay away from large toys, ones with a lot of texture, and ones with a considerable curve for g-spot or prostate stimulation, since they provide more intense stimulation that some people might not be fond of. For dildos and insertable vibrators, I’d recommend getting something that’s 1.5 inches in diameter or smaller. The Je Joue Uma, LELO Liv 2, and Aneros MGX Classic Prostate Massager are good examples of what to look for.

If your partner already has some sex toys, here’s how that could help you:

You can take a cue from their favorites if you know what they are. Do they like small or large dildos? Is a vibrator with one speed enough for them or do they enjoy a wide range of vibration strength and maybe patterns too? What kind of texture do they like on their masturbation sleeves?

Do they have any toys that could be “upgraded?” Is there a bullet vibrator that never gets used because its vibration is too weak? Maybe the strong, rumbly We-Vibe Tango would satisfy them more. Maybe they’re craving more g-spot stimulation than any toy they’ve got offers? If so, they might like the intensity of the stainless steel Njoy Pure Wand or maybe the LELO Gigi 2. Do they have a cheap or boring masturbation sleeve that would be happily replaced by a Fleshlight, or one that vibrates, like the Hot Octopuss Pulse II or Apollo Hydro Power Stroker?

Again, if their toy box doesn’t include large toys, heavily textured toys, or toys with an intense curve for g-spot or prostate stimulation, I’d suggest avoiding those unless you know that’s the sort of thing they’d like to add to their collection.

Don't be afraid to ask your partner questions. You’ve probably done this before when choosing some other kind of gift for someone, casually bringing up the subject to test the waters and get a feel for what your gift recipient might like. I know it can be tempting not to bring it up lest you reveal your gift idea, but sometimes it can make the difference between a well received gift and one that makes your partner think “it’s the thought that counts, right?”

If you’re still not feeling confident about picking a sex toy your recipient will enjoy, but want to get them a fun and sexy gift this Valentine’s Day, here’s a few more ideas:

  • Find a book or DVD that suits their interests and try some new things with them

And now, a quick word about money. Some sex toys can get a little pricey, but there are good reasons to spend the extra cash if you can afford it. Usually more expensive toys come with more features, as you’d probably expect. The more a toy costs the more likely it is to be rechargeable, and rechargeable vibrators are typically stronger and eliminate the frustration and extra expense of replacing batteries often. And finally, and most importantly, a higher price is often indicative of higher quality materials. Silicone, hard (ABS) plastics, metal, wood, and glass are all sterilizable and won’t degrade over time like some less expensive materials.

By: April
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