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Thursday, September 5, 2013

Your Guide To Ben Wa Balls

Thanks to the popularity of the Fifty Shades of Grey series, certain sex toys have seen a large increase in sales and popularity. Ben Wa Balls have seen the greatest boost in sales since the inception of the novels. You’ve probably seen them in shops and wondered ‘Where do those things go?’ ‘Are those for men or women?’ or ‘Do I hear jingling?’ Well read on and see if these are something you may want to add to your treasure chest.

Ben Wa balls, (Geisha balls, Kegel balls, or orgasm balls) are small balls that are inserted into the vagina for sexual stimulation and/or exercise. Traditionally they were made of metal and were about the size of a marble. They were inserted for increasing sexual pleasure for men during intercourse.
Today, they can be made from a variety of materials such as metal, glass, or silicone. Commonly sold in pairs, they can be loose or connected to a string for easier removal. They come in a wide range of styles such as brightly colored or weighted for exercise. Be wary of balls that are made with sub-par materials and that have a rope string. Make sure you can properly clean them with ease. 

For Exercise
Named after Arnold Kegel, Kegels, or pelvic floor exercises are easily done with Ben Wa balls. The goal of kegels is to strengthen the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles. The balls help you consciously contract your muscles which can help with urinary incontinence and can make your orgasms stronger. Consider some of these activities when using your balls. Also, feel free to use some lube when putting them in. 

Rock in a rocking chair-
This is probably one of the simplest things you can do. The subtle motion from the rocking will move the balls within you and help you contract your muscles. And best of all, no risk of them falling out!

Walk around the house-
Build up your stamina and control by keeping them inside of you and even if one slips out, it’s not like you’re inside a grocery store.

Ben Wa balls made for exercise come in different weights so start off with the lightest ones and then work your way up as you build your strength.

For Pleasure
The actual amount of pleasure gleaned from wearing these balls can vary person to person, but they will definitely give you some extra sensation. Try using them in these situations.

Insert the balls before intercourse. The balls can increase your feeling of fullness and can bring pleasure to the penetrator. 

Wear them while masturbating.
Use them for double the pleasure with anal stimulation. Insert the balls into your vagina and toy around with anal penetration, but remember, NEVER put anything in your anus that does not have a base on it. Use anal beads if you’re looking for back door stimulation. 

Also, a common misconception is that the balls can become ‘lost’ in your vagina. That is an urban legend. Your vagina is not an open cavity to the inside of your body. Sometimes the smaller balls may become tucked behind your cervix and may need a little coaxing out. Try squatting and sweeping your vagina with your finger. 

Think of these toys as an added play item to your sexual repertoire. If you’re looking to strengthen your muscles, start out using them for a few minutes a few times a week and then you can build up your time from there.  If anything, they can up the play factor with your solo and partnered play, so why not give them a try!

By Megan Stubbs  

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