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Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Fifty Shades of Play - Toys from the Erotic Trilogy

Dominating Beauty in Handcuffs

With the premiere of Fifty Shades of Grey the movie only a few weeks away, many people are feeling inspired to find ways to create their very own red room. With quick tips, some purchases, and an open mind, you’ll be on your way to living the life of Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey. Here is a selection of toys to consider, straight from the pages of the books, and into your hands.


Nothing adds to erotic mystery like a blindfold. These can be lacy and sheer or totally opaque. It is up to you to decide how much you want your partner to be able to see. With one of your partners senses dulled, the remaining ones will be on high alert, waiting for your touch. A great way to experience a power exchange.


From silk neck ties to handcuffs, restraints can be a key component to relinquishing control to your partner. Maybe even try reversing the roles to add to the spice. Be sure to be able to release your partner with ease otherwise adverse happenings may follow. You don’t want to end up using a saw to cut your headboard and carry it to the nearest locksmith.

The Bullet Vibrator

This is one of my favorite sex toys. Think of it as the gateway toy to sexual exploration. It is versatile, discrete, and very inexpensive. It is the perfect toy for clitoral stimulation and to use in any kinky situation you can imagine. *Pro tip – While the sky is the limit, do not use this for anal play as most varieties do not have a flared base. Your night may turn into fifty shades of red as you sit in the ER waiting to get it removed if it gets lost.

Nipple Clamps

I assure you these look much scarier than they are. These are great for someone who likes chest stimulation. The clamps pinch the nipples which creates a higher sensitivity to touch. Feel free to use these for foreplay or during sex.


These toys fall into the ‘impact play’ category of sex. They are great for providing direct contact to a specific body part (see spanking). Each implement offers different tactile sensations against the skin. Many stores often have these types of toys on display, so feel free to reach out and touch one. Practice on your arm. See how they feel. Just don’t get too wild, remember, you’re still in public.

Ben Wa Balls

After the release of the book, the sale of Ben Wa balls skyrocketed for many companies. At the mention of the name, I’m sure many people think, ‘I’ve heard of them, I know what they look like, but I’m not really sure what they do.’ These are inserted into the vagina for a subtle sensation. You can use them to strengthen your PC muscles or wear them during penetrative sex.

Butt Plug

This toy is inserted into your anus for sexual pleasure. Many people report that it provides a feeling of fullness that is very enjoyable on its own or during penetrative sex.

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By Megan Stubbs
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