Introducing Sex Toys - The Dildo

 The difference between a vibrator and a dildo is, just as one of the words implies, vibration. A vibrator is any sex toy that uses vibration for stimulation and can come in a variety of shapes. A dildo doesn’t vibrate and is penis or phallic shaped for penetration. A dildo can have a pocket to insert a bullet vibe to convert it into a vibrator. Dildos shapes may not vary as much a vibrator but there are still lots of options out there. Here is an overview to help you pick one out that works for you. Have one that works for everything or have a variety to suit your needs.

Phallic shape is subject to interpretation

Merriam-Webster defines a dildo as “An object resembling a penis used for sexual stimulation.” Dildos can come in a variety of phallic shapes. Some are exquisitely detailed and realistic in shape. There are almost as many varieties in life like dildos as there are real life penises. They come in different lengths, different widths, and different textures. You can find shorter more slender ones, bigger and wider ones, a thickly flanged head or a slim one, balls attached or ball free. There are even dildos that have detailed veins on the shaft to add more texture. You can pick the color that suits your taste since you can find them in a variety of skin tones and some wacky colors too. You can also make a cast of someone’s penis for a homemade custom-made dildo. This can be tricky, and a little messy, but if all works out right you’ll have a duplicate of the penis you know and love. If realistic is not what you’re looking for, there are shapes with no detail at all just simple cylinders. There are others that still look somewhat like a penis but have more artistic shapes and textures designed not to replicate an actual penis but to enhance pleasure with spirals, nubs and swirls. While dildos can be used for any kind of insertion, you can get dildos specifically shaped and designed for anal play.

Condom Awareness: A Variety Of Condoms To Suit Your Needs

February is National Condom Awareness month. It’s a good time to look at what kinds of condoms are currently available. If you haven’t picked any up in a while, or you’ve been sticking to your favorite brand, you may have missed some of the alternatives that have been developed. This will be an overview of condom materials that might teach you something new or give you something different to look for next time you go shopping. Condoms have come a long way since the early use of linen, animal intestines, tortoise shell and galvanized rubber. Latex is not the only material on the block. Let’s look at all the options available today.

Latex condom

Latex condoms have been around since 1920 when it replaced vulcanized rubber. Vulcanized rubber, and later cement dipped rubber, were thicker and less comfortable. The invention of latex rubber improved this significantly. Latex was thinner and could be mass-produced with automated machines, a big improvement on the earlier handmade condoms. Latex hasn’t changed much in nearly 100 years. They tightened quality control, which produced better quality condoms. The 50’s also saw the introduction of lubricated condoms and the reservoir tip. Spermicides were later added, although Nonoxynol 9 is no longer recommended since research has shown it may increase the risk of HIV transmission, as well as HPV plus it can be an irritant to vaginal and anal tissue. There’s more variety in sizes and shapes now with ribbed, textured, colored and flavored latex condoms readily available. Latex produces a thin condom with elasticity and durability that makes it the most popular type used today. There are some drawbacks. Some people are allergic to latex causing redness, dryness, burning and other reactions. It’s also not compatible with oil-based products. Oil base lube, petroleum jelly, and mineral oil will cause the latex to break down and tear.

An Introduction to Oral Pleasure - Fellatio

Fellatio, most commonly known as a blowjob or giving head, has myths and misinformation surrounding it just like it’s female counterpart cunnilingus. This is not something often covered in sex ed and even something you feel comfortable talking about with friends or family. Fellatio is still steeped in taboo for many and you can find laws against in it some states even today. Some just think they won’t enjoy giving it. Perhaps some information and myth busting will help make fellatio a more fun and enjoyable part of sexy time.

An Anatomy Lesson

The word fellatio comes from the latin fellatus, which is the past participle of fellare, meaning to suck. Merriam-Webster’s definition of fellatio is “the act of stimulating a man's penis with the mouth for sexual pleasure.” Just as the vulva come in all shapes and sized, the penis comes in various shapes, lengths, and widths. The tip of the penis is the glans (the head) with the urethral opening; then the foreskin (if you happen to be uncircumcised); the underside of the glans has an area called the frenulum and the rounded base of the glans is called the corona. The whole glans area has the highest concentration of nerves. The frenulum has the most nerve endings so can be the most sensitive part of the penis. The glans connects to the shaft. The ridge along the underside of the shaft is the raphe and it extends from the glans, past the scrotum to the perineum. This area is the most sensitive part of the shaft. The whole of the penis extends into the body, which includes the prostate. The opening of the urethra is called the meatus; I will pause for a moment to allow you to giggle about that.

Gift Ideas To Spice Up Your Valentine’s Day

If you’re over the pink, the heart shaped boxes of chocolates, and the generic check-out lane bought bouquet of flowers for Valentine’s Day, consider these five unique ideas.

Gift Mutual Lingerie

Why not take your partner shopping for some sexy under things? This can be a great way for both of you to play in the store and get some new garb to wear for your erotic encounters. Single? Take this time to splurge and do something special for yourself! Buy yourself anything that makes you feel sexy or helps you boost your confidence in the bedroom. Get double your money’s worth by not only getting to look extra sexy, but use the chance to do an slow strip tease for your partner as well.

Snail Mail an Erotic Letter

The art of letter writing is slowly becoming a lost art. Surprise your partner by actually hand writing them a letter and sending it in the mail. The letter can be as mild or wild as you would like. It can describe things that you love about them or a very graphic, detailed letter about what you plan to do to them on Valentine’s night.

A Strap-On Harness Guide

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An Introduction to Oral Pleasure: Cunnilingus

Depending on how you obtained your early sex education, you may not have had much discussion about oral sex. Just getting around to discussing basic sexual intercourse can be difficult. Oral pleasure may have been left to the realm of mystery in which you had to figure things out yourself, both giving and receiving. When it comes to female oral pleasure, cunnilingus, sometimes we’ve held onto myths, assumptions or misinformation. Whether you are long time fan or newly exploring, I hope this introduction to the how and why of oral pleasure will help you.

An anatomy lesson

Cunnilingus comes from the Latin words for vulva, cunnus, and licking, lingere. The Merriam-Webster definition is “The act of stimulating a woman's sexual organs with the mouth for sexual pleasure.” The woman’s sexual organs being the vulva (which includes the clitoris, labia majora, labia minor) and the vagina. The clitoris may have only a small section exposed, the tip of the iceberg so to speak, but it also continues under the surface. The exposed portion, the clitoral hood and the gland clitoris, is highly sensitive to pleasure in most women while the internal portion is sensitive to pressure and vibration. The area has a high concentration of nerve endings and blood vessels. Feelings of sexual pleasure not only come from direct stimulation of the clitoris but also the labia minora, the inner lips extended along the vulva just inside the outer labia majora. All areas from the mons pubis down to the perineum are open for lingual stimulation. Statistically, 70-80% of women find they orgasm much more readily with clitoral stimulation than with penetration or g-spot stimulation. This makes oral sex a great path to awesome orgasms.

Introducing Sex Toys - S&M toys

If you’re new to BDSM, you may be curious about how pain can be pleasurable. Most people experience pain as something unpleasant such as getting a spanking as corporal punishment, getting hit in anger or by accident. Pain play can feel good because of the chemicals released when experiencing both pain and pleasure. The rush we feel, with the release of endorphins and epinephrine, along with the release of melatonin and serotonin, react in our minds and bodies similar to a runner’s high. The impact also stimulates nerves that heighten arousal. So rather than thinking of pain play as just being beaten with painful objects to illicit extreme pain, think of it as a consensual stimulation of the senses that also triggers pleasure. The giver receives pleasure for the arousal of their partner and the intimate connection during play.

Where to start

Don’t just jump in, start with communication. Talk about what you’d like to try and what you’re afraid of trying. Incorporate safe words and discuss boundaries. Stay in tune with each other and check in from time to time. Try less intense toys and work your way up. Just remember that it doesn’t have to be scary and intense, it can be fun and lighthearted too.

What’s your pleasure?

There are different kinds of impact styles. Thudding, a blunt heavy hit and stinging, a sharp burning hit. Some prefer one more than the other, while some prefer a combination of the two. Paddles and heavy floggers have a thudding feel while crops, whips, slappers and canes are more stinging. You can also find softer versions of these toys that are neither thudding nor stinging. Start with gentle hits and work up. Move around the body; don’t just stay in the same place, and alternate smacks with soft touches. Take your time; anticipation can be an amazing turn on.