B is for Bondage: Bondage for Beginners

The recent interest in all things kinky has sparked the desire to learn more about BDSM. If you’re new to BDSM, I’d like to introduce you to the “B” in that acronym: Bondage. Bondage can be a sexy bit of kink easily added to your routine. 

The first thing you should do when starting to explore bondage is talk. Communication is the key when starting any new venture. We’ve seen enough stories on the internet about unsuspecting partners being “surprised” and only managing to spice up the evening with an extremely upset partner or, worse yet, physical injury. Find out what turns you on by reading different types of erotica. There are also instructional books, instructional DVDs and websites that can help introduce you to a variety of options. Try writing an email or letter to your partner if talking makes you uncomfortable. Once you’ve agreed upon what you’re both comfortable doing, also talk about what you won’t do. Limits are important. Once you’ve established what you are willing, and not willing to do, you can start looking for ways to safely make that happen.

6 Tips to be a Sexy Goddess for Your Partner

 

We all like to believe we make our partner happy, in many ways, but let’s talk about ways to make your partner happy sexually. If I asked your partner – what would they say? Before we find out anything negative, I’ll share some tips to help you be a sex goddess for your partner.

When people find out I’m a Relationship Coach and a Master Sexpert, their first comment is to tell me how great they are in bed. However, they need to understand there is always something new to learn or something new to try. So, let’s talk about things you can do to be the sex goddess your partner wants... and it is likely to help you enjoy sex more. 

 

Back Door Basics

For some, the prospect of anal sex is very taboo. But for those who want to break through the stigma and revel in the pleasure, anal play can be super hot. Both men and woman can enjoy in anal pleasure. Yes, you too men. *(Just because you like anal play, it doesn’t make you gay. How you enjoy pleasure does not define your sexual orientation.)  The anus is a hot bed of nerve endings that result in an often overlooked erogenous zone.  So if you’re still with me, and want some must know butt basics, read on fellow sexual explorer.

 Anytime I ask someone about anal play and they tell me they would never do it, the number one reason is because “that is where poop comes out of.” Yes, you’re not wrong, but in a healthy person, the rectum is merely temporary storage of feces. There shouldn’t be any remnants left over. If you’re still concerned, you are welcome to use an enema. 

As with any new sexual activity, you have to be in the right mindset. Nervousness and apprehension are common. Take some time to relax your mind and body with some deep breaths. Check in with your anus. Are you clenching? Make a conscious effort to relax and really get in touch with your body. 

Things to Consider Before You Have a Threesome

It is pretty universal that most men are interested in or fantasize about having a threesome – usually with two women. But, no matter what combination, a threesome is something many men think about.

Technically group sex includes sex with 3, 4, or more people. That means there are more mouths, more hands, more arms, more legs – but there is also more need to communicate, more need for coordination, more feelings, more baggage…  There are many things to consider about group sex.

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Please a Woman

Think about this scenario for a minute. Imagine your woman comes to you asking for sex. That’s right – you don’t have to ask, you don’t worry that she’ll claim to have a headache or to be too busy. She is the one to initiate sex – and that means you don’t have to think about being turned down. You may wonder what would cause a typical woman to start taking the initiative and to be the aggressor in your relationship.

The answer is simple – you have proven to be the “ideal” partner and lover. You help her embrace and enjoy her sexuality, you make her feel comfortable and sexy when you’re together. You have also shown her that you want to do your part to make her very happy and encourage her sexual pleasure.

She wants you. She wants you to make love to her. Does that sound good? I’m going to give you the secret formula…

My love coach mentor said, “anyone can have sex, but making love is an art form.” That is very true, and pleasing your woman is an art. Pay attention – these are the “secrets” you need to know to please your woman and to take both of you to a more satisfying level.

Lube 101 - Wetter is Better

Biologically we naturally lubricate when we are sexually aroused. The lubrication produced helps facilitate sexual intercourse by reducing friction between the vagina and penis. But we don’t only have PV sex, and not all of us are having sex just to procreate. We engage in all kinds of sexual activities and most of the time our natural lubrication can’t keep up with the duration of our sex sessions. The use of lube is NOT a sign that you aren’t turned on enough or a cop out. Lube is a great staple to include in your solo and partnered sex life and everyone has heard that wetter is better!

Like the colors of the rainbow, lube comes in many different varieties. Lubes can be water, silicone, or oil based and each of these has their benefits. Some things to keep in mind while lube shopping-