Your Guide to Sexting

One of the hottest trends in connecting with your special someone is sexting. Sexting is the act of sending sexy words or pictures to a partner. With the amazing quality of picture and video we have on our phones, this is now the best time to combine sex and technology. This is like phone sex 2.0. Never let distance be a problem with you and your partner again. You two can now be connected with literally a push of a button. While this sounds pretty simple and straightforward, there are a few guidelines to make sure you abide by that can make your sexting experience easy.

Turn Sweetest Day Into Sweetest Night

Do you know what is happening October 19, 2013? It’s Sweetest Day! What’s that? You’ve never heard of it? Being from the Mitten state, this is a holiday that I grew up with. It is a Midwest construct which involves giving your ‘sweetie’ something sweet to show that you care. Think Valentine’s day, but only in the Fall. This isn’t a national holiday, which often makes people call it a ‘Hallmark Holiday.’ This is insinuating that it was created by the card company to make you buy their goods, but it allegedly originated from a Cleveland candy company employee. According the history on Hallmark’s website, Sweetest Day was imagined by Herbert Birch Kingston in 1922. He wanted to bring happiness to those people who were often forgotten such as orphans and people confined to their homes. 

Now fast forward to present day, Hallmark, as well as many other candy, card, and gift companies, are on board with this holiday which is celebrated every third Saturday in October. People shower their friends, family, and loved ones with gifts such as chocolates, cards, and flowers, but I want to challenge to you add a little something to this holiday. Sweeten the deal, if you will. If you’re looking for something extra special to give your sweet one, give them the gift of sex. I’m calling this Sweetest Night. 

Introducing Sex Toys – The Vibrator

I’d like to continue our introduction to sex toys with something very basic, a vibrator. What’s interesting about the vibrator is that it has evolved since the earlier phallic shaped “massagers” most of us have seen. Vibrators now come in all sorts of shapes, configurations and styles. They also come in a variety of materials like silicone, metal, glass and even ceramic. So without further ado… Relationship, meet the vibrator.

Why a Vibrator?

Adding vibration can be stimulating for both partners. A vibrator can be used during foreplay to tease over the top of clothes or along bare skin, around nipples, on the clitoris or in the vagina. You can use it in front of your partner, allowing them to watch you as you please yourself. A little seductive voyeurism! It also gives you a chance to show your partner where you really like to be touched. Your partner can use it on you, adding to caresses and touches with the purring of the vibrator. You can use it to enhance oral sex. It can also be used during sex to increase stimulation, help to find that elusive peak or help to continue when one partner is spent but would like to continue to please their partner. The vibrator is not for the female body alone, men can use vibrators too. It can be pressed against the nipples, penis, balls, perineum and anus to add more stimulation. Experiment all over. You might find a spot that works wonders for you.

Female Erogenous Zones

Recently I shared an article about erogenous zones for men and I included a lot of areas around the penis. Most men enjoy direct and aggressive touching and I think it is good to know different areas that can turn your man on.

On the other hand, women often like you to take it slower and work up to genital touching. So, let’s take a very different approach in this article. A lot of women know the other areas on their body that excite them. This could be because many women get more pleasure from extensive foreplay than they do from intercourse. But your woman may not be willing to tell you where and how she wants to be touched. So, I’m going to give you some tips.

Erogenous Zones of Men

Men have a wide variety of erogenous zones on their body. Most people – male and female - have the widespread misunderstanding that boys and men only have sexual feelings in their penis, or only in the head of their penis. There are many possible reasons for this misconception but let’s focus on getting the truth out there and not the myths.

Most of the erogenous zones in a male body are easiest to stimulate when he’s relaxed and contrary to what you may think – start off gently. This gentle stimulation on a relaxed body can be just as arousing as penal stimulation and in some cases it can result in orgasm. Here is your cheat sheet on where and how to stimulate your man. Let’s focus on areas around his genitals and breasts – although, keep in mind there are erogenous zones all over his body.

Introducing Sex Toys to a Relationship

Delight Vibrator by Fun Factory

As we become more open minded (and open in discussion) about sex toys, an increased number of people are looking past the previous stigmas and into new possibilities. Sex toys were usually thought of as “solo play” devices, i.e., masturbatory aids, but an increasing number of couples are discovering the benefits of sex toys with their partners. There are still many out there who haven’t tried it, or even thought of it. This may be because some have never used sex toys before, while those with previous experience may have assume they just don’t need toys with a full time partner or, worse yet, that a sex toy will replace them. Lately, it seems more people who never thought of adding sex toys before are realizing they are not just for “alone time” anymore. They can use them augment an already satisfying sex life or, perhaps, put a bit more zing into one that could use a little… improvement.

I’m assuming since you’re reading this, you are one of those who either haven’t used sex toys before or have never used sex toys with your partner, but would like too. Let’s start with a simple introduction, shall we. Relationship, this is sex toys. Sex toys, this is relationship.

Your Guide To Ben Wa Balls

Thanks to the popularity of the Fifty Shades of Grey series, certain sex toys have seen a large increase in sales and popularity. Ben Wa Balls have seen the greatest boost in sales since the inception of the novels. You’ve probably seen them in shops and wondered ‘Where do those things go?’ ‘Are those for men or women?’ or ‘Do I hear jingling?’ Well read on and see if these are something you may want to add to your treasure chest.

LUNA BEADS Classic by LELO

Ben Wa balls, (Geisha balls, Kegel balls, or orgasm balls) are small balls that are inserted into the vagina for sexual stimulation and/or exercise. Traditionally they were made of metal and were about the size of a marble. They were inserted for increasing sexual pleasure for men during intercourse.

Today, they can be made from a variety of materials such as metal, glass, or silicone. Commonly sold in pairs, they can be loose or connected to a string for easier removal. They come in a wide range of styles such as brightly colored or weighted for exercise. Be wary of balls that are made with sub-par materials and that have a rope string. Make sure you can properly clean them with ease.